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This post is interesting to me because in 2012 I started the 6 month weight loss pre cert for VSG and backed out at 4 months because I thought that the same thing. This is too drastic, and I resolved to lose the weight without surgery.
Fast forward to 2014, 2 years later after 3 failed diet attempts and over 30 pounds heavier my husband had an accident that left him unable to walk for 3 months during recovery. My weight limited my ability to help him and worse yet I can't imagine how I would have coped if it had happened to me. THAT WAS THE MOMENT I REALIZED THAT BEING MORBIDLY OBESE IS EXTREME. it sounds crazy, but it is so true. Isn't diabetes, high cholesterol and heart disease extreme ? It was a real turning point for me.
I again started the 6 month ore op with a different frame of mind. I had surgery September of 2015 and I couldn't be happier.
Do what it right for you!
Good luck on your journey!

I don't think you are alone in finding it hard to believe that "it" will really happen. I have been overweight since high school and although the math alone proves we will drop the weight, it still seemed hard to believe in the beginning.
I am 4 months out now and somewhere around the 2 month time frame I decided that this was my new life and started treating myself like the person I wanted to be. I know that sounds weird, but I realized that at times I didn't treat myself to well in the past. Manicures, pedicures, fresh haircut and of course that is about the time clothes started to get fun again. My point is that when I started doing that it really took some of the focus off of what had become an obsession for me .... what did I lose today?
It is just so much more than that. I know you will find that moment too. Good luck on your journey!

G O A L!! 204.0
Ready for the next challenge. Congratulations to everyone ????

203.1. I can see the gates to Onederland...lol

I weighed myself this morning and I was 247. Not exactly my goal, but any loss is a gain. Maybe I will be somewhere in the 230's by the end of the month. To everyone that worked hard over the last few weeks keep it up. We are going to make it.

I am so jealous of your cruise and I am glad you went.
This tool will be with you for a lifetime and it seems you managed to navigate it pretty well. You were not perfect, but neither is life. ????
Best of luck on continued success!

Oh, and I didn't think for a moment that you gave up. ????

I don't think you are alone in finding it hard to believe that "it" will really happen. I have been overweight since high school and although the math alone proves we will drop the weight, it still seemed hard to believe in the beginning.
I am 4 months out now and somewhere around the 2 month time frame I decided that this was my new life and started treating myself like the person I wanted to be. I know that sounds weird, but I realized that at times I didn't treat myself to well in the past. Manicures, pedicures, fresh haircut and of course that is about the time clothes started to get fun again. My point is that when I started doing that it really took some of the focus off of what had become an obsession for me .... what did I lose today?
It is just so much more than that. I know you will find that moment too. Good luck on your journey!

This post is interesting to me because in 2012 I started the 6 month weight loss pre cert for VSG and backed out at 4 months because I thought that the same thing. This is too drastic, and I resolved to lose the weight without surgery.
Fast forward to 2014, 2 years later after 3 failed diet attempts and over 30 pounds heavier my husband had an accident that left him unable to walk for 3 months during recovery. My weight limited my ability to help him and worse yet I can't imagine how I would have coped if it had happened to me. THAT WAS THE MOMENT I REALIZED THAT BEING MORBIDLY OBESE IS EXTREME. it sounds crazy, but it is so true. Isn't diabetes, high cholesterol and heart disease extreme ? It was a real turning point for me.
I again started the 6 month ore op with a different frame of mind. I had surgery September of 2015 and I couldn't be happier.
Do what it right for you!
Good luck on your journey!

I am all in!! Thanks Sarah ????

This post is interesting to me because in 2012 I started the 6 month weight loss pre cert for VSG and backed out at 4 months because I thought that the same thing. This is too drastic, and I resolved to lose the weight without surgery.
Fast forward to 2014, 2 years later after 3 failed diet attempts and over 30 pounds heavier my husband had an accident that left him unable to walk for 3 months during recovery. My weight limited my ability to help him and worse yet I can't imagine how I would have coped if it had happened to me. THAT WAS THE MOMENT I REALIZED THAT BEING MORBIDLY OBESE IS EXTREME. it sounds crazy, but it is so true. Isn't diabetes, high cholesterol and heart disease extreme ? It was a real turning point for me.
I again started the 6 month ore op with a different frame of mind. I had surgery September of 2015 and I couldn't be happier.
Do what it right for you!
Good luck on your journey!

I had the same issue with my top incision. I was worried about it opening back up. After talking with my nurse , I put several butterfly stitches over that incision then a large bandage over that during the day or whenever I had my bra on. When I was home without a bra I left the bandage off. Within 4 days that cleared things up for me.

I am so jealous of your cruise and I am glad you went.
This tool will be with you for a lifetime and it seems you managed to navigate it pretty well. You were not perfect, but neither is life. ????
Best of luck on continued success!

During soft stage cottage cheese was my go to food. I also ate devil eggs, and canned deviled ham.

I had ready made shakes because they were just easier for me when I was only sipping a couple oz at a time. I ate watered down cream of Soups (low fat). I also had beef and chicken bullion cubes that I used to make broth with. I used unflavored Protein in the broth and Soup to add protein. This was a real staple for me during pre op and the first two weeks post op. It was nice to have something that wasn't sweet.
SF Popsicles were a hit with me early post op.
Good luck!

@@ForeverHealthy
First I will say having this surgery is the best thing that ever happened to me. My only regret is that I did not do it many years ago.
I am 16 months post op, down 139lbs with 6lbs left to go until my ideal weight. I went from a BMI over 40 to 24.5. I had numerous comorbitities like type 2 diabetes, severe Gerd, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, anemia, sleep apnea and stage 3 kidney disease.
I will say, I waited too long and did serious damage to my spine as well as other joints. Waiting too long is my only regret.
The answer to your question about snacking is yes I do. I am very restricted so in order for me to get all my Protein and veggies in, I have to have 1 or 2 small healthy Snacks a day. I track everything I eat throughout the day to ensure I am within my Protein goals. I think the moment it takes me to track is the reason I have been able to be so successful in losing my weight. I intend to continue that habit because I want to maintain my new healthier body.
Best of luck to you!

The only person that can answer this....is you. You know your medical hx and/or problems.
Think about it this way: your body is ALREADY altered from what it's supposed to be. You are carrying too much weight and that complicates a myriad of conditions/symptoms. It comes down to a risk/benefit scenario that only you can decide to be worthy.
A common theme found here is apprehensions pre-op. However, as people tell their story you will see how those apprehensions were overcome.

It is so so worth it. It's not just the weight loss either. I've lost so much weight over the years. That part is very doable without surgery. It's the keeping it off that I could never conquer. And to slowly watch yourself gain back that weight you'd worked so hard to shed is utterly soul crushing.
I'm six months out from my bypass and only 16 pounds from my goal. What makes this weight loss so different is knowing I can really do this long term. My personal demon was that I was always hungry. No matter how much I ate, or how full I got, half an hour later I was starving again. That's all changed.
I still have hunger on occasion but it's nowhere near the monster it used to be. It's like a tiny little tap, opposed to getting hit with a sledge hammer. You can ignore a tap, but a sledge hammer won't be denied. Now I find myself constantly thinking that this must be what a normal sized person's hunger feels like. It's so controllable it's almost surreal.
I've given up bread, soda, sweets, fast food, rice and more. The further out I get the less I crave it anymore. I could have never done that on my own. I also exercise daily. I'm 54 years old and this is the first time in my life that I'm in charge of my body, and it's finally working with me. I love eating healthy. I never used to drink Water and now it's all I drink. I feel at least 20 years younger and my health is perfect.
I would do this over again without question. As cliche as it sounds by now, this is the best thing I've ever done for myself. I was lucky enough to have no complications and an easy recovery. But with everything I've received in return, even if there had been some bumps in the road, I'm pretty sure I'd still say I'd do it again.
We all have to take a leap of faith going into surgery. There's no getting around it. But the way I was existing before wasn't really a life at all. It was more like waiting to die. It was for me anyway. Now I feel reborn!
Best of luck to you on your journey. I hope you end up just as satisfied as I certainly am!

I don't think you are alone in finding it hard to believe that "it" will really happen. I have been overweight since high school and although the math alone proves we will drop the weight, it still seemed hard to believe in the beginning.
I am 4 months out now and somewhere around the 2 month time frame I decided that this was my new life and started treating myself like the person I wanted to be. I know that sounds weird, but I realized that at times I didn't treat myself to well in the past. Manicures, pedicures, fresh haircut and of course that is about the time clothes started to get fun again. My point is that when I started doing that it really took some of the focus off of what had become an obsession for me .... what did I lose today?
It is just so much more than that. I know you will find that moment too. Good luck on your journey!

My two cents' worth:
I think all these weight goal challenges that are defined as X pounds lost by Y date are just nuts and lead exactly to where you are right now -- feeling destabilized and like you're a failure because the scales didn't produce a number you defined as "success" and thought would make you feel worthy.
And yes, life will always, always throw us curve balls. You're not going to change that ever. And you're not going to have a perfect lifestyle in any single week. A healthy lifestyle is built week after month after year. And one of the biggest tools you need to build a healthy lifestyle is to learn not to hate on yourself because you aren't perfect. No one is perfect. No one. At the end of a week like this, just set new goals for next week. Or today. That's how this goes.
Now, back to the scale: Yes, we are entitled to want to lose X pounds and reach our weight goal. But our bodies do NOT lose weight on a schedule. We don't lose in a simple, linear downhill straight line. Regardless of whether we're doing everything "right," we sometimes stall or even gain weight. You cannot -- repeat, cannot -- control all the factors that influence the rate at which you lose weight.
You've lost 50 pounds in two months. I hope you know that rate of weight loss is not going to continue for much longer. Maybe that rate of weight loss is going to slow down next month.
You are on this journey for the rest of your life. Not last week. Not next week. Take a deep breath and get ready for the trip.
BTW, my fat was "old," too. That has nothing to do with your future success as a WLS patient. I had my surgery at 68 years old. I'm 70 years old now. I've lost 100 pounds and am maintaining now at 135 pounds -- skinniest and fittest I've been in 35 years.
So buck up, you young thang you!

Goals.
Goals not met.
Goals can be a real beyotch if you don't have some refinement and structure around them. At least that's the way it is for me.
I certainly have an ultimate goal of where I want to be.....but I've set intermittent goals that feel freaking great when achieved.
Not all of them are weight goals. Many are NSV's that I get a kick out of reaching.
....A piece of clothing that I want to fit in comfortably.
......An activity that I want to do without difficulty.
......Fitness goals.
It is imperative that I have goals beyond the scale. My daily weigh-ins would drive me nuts if they were my only source of validation.
One of the ones that I achieved yesterday.....hit me like a hammer and made me grin stupidly......was on the treadmill. Had my first morning off work after a 60 hr pressure cooker workweek. I hit the gym and busted off two hours on the treadmill. Even when I'd find that "right" music and turn up the speed and elevation.....I couldn't seem to get my heart rate up above the high 140's. Crazy. A month ago I couldn't keep it under 160. Soon....soon the knees will be ready to run and it's going to be ON !!!!!!

Shame is a painful, social emotion that can be seen as resulting "...from comparison of the self's action with the self's standards.
This is an edit of the original post. Based on the above definition shame is a fitting word to use for this post. Other associations that one may have with the word shame is not my doing.
May I also add I did in fact end this post with a sense of hope for future progress that I think people seemed to over look. Admitting that I had a feeling of shame for a few days does not mean that I am suffering from low self esteem. Nor does it mean that I am always feel shame. People whom attempted to advise, well fine people I was not looking for tips or steps or guidance on how to change my emotional state because I knew that was going to change. Sometimes we do not give others the right to feel as they do. If one feels some sort of negative emotion we have to find ways to eradicate it right away in stead of wrestling with the emotion to have a better understanding of self. Also, the idea that I or anyone else should not have goals as it relates to weight loss is nonsense. Did not embark on this WLS journey with a goal in mind? Huh, am I wrong? We all have goals here. They may not be the exact goal, but still. No one had WLS with the goal of, "Well I would like to have major surgery to keep my body exactly the same." Come on now! With all that said, read on. Leave advise if you want. Please know it is not needed or wanted, but hey you do you.
This past work week has been overly exhausted. This week I had two assemblies and a field trip. One of these events alone is stressful, but both did me in. I only exercised once this week. I feel really bad about that. I suppose a better word for it is ashamed. I have this secret fear that I will never make my goal weight. That my work will just be in vain. My eating has been as it should.
I have to evaluate what happened to me this week. Two things happened this week and both are not encouraging. I realized last weekend I was not going to successful at my challenge I set for the Valentine's Day challenge. I also have this fear of not being successful. I have lost more than fifty lbs, but I keep thinking what if this is it. As a person who has "old fat", I have been over weight/obese since my youth, perhaps this is all my body will know. So I guess I gave up this week in some ways.
However, when one fails at one goal then one just needs to make another goal. Next week I will do better. I have to think of a game plan. Next week we not be a week of shame.

Hi everyone
We'll I did it...sleeved on yesterday Feb 10. And what's the most annoying thing to have I naseua. Ugh!
Having a little buyers remorse but I'm sure it will pass.
Just thought I'd share.
Thanks!

The next challenge will start on 2/22 and run through 3/28 I'll post the link soon so check back soon!

The scale FINALLY moved!!!!! After almost 5 weeks in a stall ... today is 181lbs.
HAPPY DANCE!!!!