Bonawanabfree

I'm so sorry. That's tough. But I'm glad you see that you are ultimately better off without him. Work on you, and when you are ready, the right one will come along. I don't know how old you are, but you seem very mature with a good head on your shoulders. Time will heal your broken heart. Concentrate on you.

A man's point of view. I have no respect for men who treat their partners like that. I l always have to think that anyone who constantly accuses their partner of cheating is really pointing the finger at themselves. It is an incredibly courageous thing to do, moving on -- just be vigilant, men like that can be very apologetic and silver tongued devils, once they realize what they have done to themselves... those behaviors don't ever really change. Great work on your program as well -- good job!

@@Babbs
@@JustWatchMe
@@drmeow
I want to thank each of you women for telling me exactly what I need to hear. It is tough but it will get easier. i have never been married and I have been invovled with controlling men before in my life and i want nothing to do with it. His issues are not my issues and i will not allow someone to drain the greatness of who i am to appease his own ego. i dont ever want to be with another man that needs to know my every move, It is very oppressive and abusive. he actually has admitted to me that he knows he has issues and that he knows that what he is doing to me is abusive and so i gave him a choice, Either leave me to find happiness or get the help you need to learn how to cope. I gave him many chances and sometimes it seemed as though it was going to work but a leopard cant change his spots. We are who we are. Now i am actually excited about my future with me. I never felt lonely because i love my solitude. No dating for me for a long time. i want to just know me.
PS...Babbs-Im 32...

I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.

@@Babbs
@@JustWatchMe
@@drmeow
I want to thank each of you women for telling me exactly what I need to hear. It is tough but it will get easier. i have never been married and I have been invovled with controlling men before in my life and i want nothing to do with it. His issues are not my issues and i will not allow someone to drain the greatness of who i am to appease his own ego. i dont ever want to be with another man that needs to know my every move, It is very oppressive and abusive. he actually has admitted to me that he knows he has issues and that he knows that what he is doing to me is abusive and so i gave him a choice, Either leave me to find happiness or get the help you need to learn how to cope. I gave him many chances and sometimes it seemed as though it was going to work but a leopard cant change his spots. We are who we are. Now i am actually excited about my future with me. I never felt lonely because i love my solitude. No dating for me for a long time. i want to just know me.
PS...Babbs-Im 32...

I have been with a man for a while and we were engaged to be married. Everything was going well but he has major insecurities and constantly thought I was being deceitful and always accused me of cheating. As of Thursday last week I we have been done. It is finished. he was so wonderful in so many ways but there was that one thing that ruined all the good stuff. I have never cheated on anyone and i am not deceitful in the least. I give everyone the respect that I would want to have given to me. i am loyal and true and I have never done anything to deserve this. I am sorry i am here talking about my bull but i thought it would be nice to hear from others that have been through this. It seems as though right when i needed him the most is when he would be c9ome very insecure and accusitory. i dont want to be with him anymore. I know this is for the best but it still does hurt. I put so much of myslef into this relationship and I just have to learn from it and move forward. Onward and upward. i have goals and big plans for my life and there is a piece of me that is just upset because i feel as though it was all in vain. I think I had just gotten to a point that i was over it anyway and that is why it seems easier. He was so supportive of so many things in my life and so wonderful and it scares the hell out of me that I wont find that with anyone else. I know i am just going in circles but I had to send my feelings about this into the universe and release them. thanks for taking the time to heart me out. Its not that i think he is a bad person, I just feel he is confused and scared to death of what love can do to him. Every relationship is a risk but we cant hold on to the past and be scared of our own shadows. We cant find love unless we try to love with trust and faith.

@@leag78
I can totally relate, I still cant see the difference but i feel the difference. I want it gone now now now but thats not realistic. it didnt take us overnight to gain and it wont take overnight to lose. I see my fiance once a month and he is amazed at the amount I have lost but I on the other hand still see this jelly roll around my neck and gut. You need to remember that you are beautiful the way you are no matter if you are big, small, short or tall. This isnt about your looks right now its about your life and your health. Beauty is truely within your heart.

@@foodfighter78
I will pray that you get well. i know the feeling. It makes eating a difficult task. i started to hate food because it would hurt me. I am better now but I do understand your emotions in this.

@@leag78
I can totally relate, I still cant see the difference but i feel the difference. I want it gone now now now but thats not realistic. it didnt take us overnight to gain and it wont take overnight to lose. I see my fiance once a month and he is amazed at the amount I have lost but I on the other hand still see this jelly roll around my neck and gut. You need to remember that you are beautiful the way you are no matter if you are big, small, short or tall. This isnt about your looks right now its about your life and your health. Beauty is truely within your heart.

I am currently in the 2's. It took me 2 months but everyone is different. I was 315 and have lost 44lbs in 2 months total. Just keep doing what you are doing and things will happen naturally. I am currently at a slow down but that has happened several times. i will lose about 5 lbs in a week and then the next week I wont lose an ounce. The human body tries to preserve itself when it thinks it is being starved.

@@leag78
i am so sorry that you have been feeling ignored and I am sure it was not meant to be mean and it was not out of bad intent. I usually respond to all the recent topics found on the right side of the screen because I only have a limited amount of time throughout the day to spend on this site. I will read your posts right now and respond. Just know that no one is going out to ignore you at all and most likely respond to the most recent topics located on the right side of the screen just due to being on the run and not being able to respond to all posts. i have had a few of my own that have not been answered.

I am in the final approval phase. I should find out by mid-May if I am approved. I find myself eating everything in site. My nerves are terrible. Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like a total nut.

@@foodfighter78
I will pray that you get well. i know the feeling. It makes eating a difficult task. i started to hate food because it would hurt me. I am better now but I do understand your emotions in this.

@@foodfighter78
I had the gastric sleeve and i had a very painful couple weeks a while ago and it turned out to be esophogeal spasms. It was so painful. I had to get a spasm surpressant but have not used it now cause they finally went away by themselves. I wonder if that might be your culprit. i would also equate it to gas pains.

@@Kathrine1970
I know for me that was normal. I still get a yuck feeling every once in a while. Your body will adapt over time. Just eat slowly and you will be okay.

@@Big Opie
I think everyoner has thought about saggy skin and been very nervous about it. I know I have. I started out over 300lbs so i know it is inevitable. I actually love my skin believe it or not. I know this sounds a little crazy so forgive me but I think it is kind of a good thing. I am noticing my body change already its only been 7 1/2 weeks since my surgery. I look at the changes and I am reminded of the nightmare of not being able to bend or the dread of having to walk a long distance. i have more pep in my step and can finally breathe easier. I like my floppy skin. I have thought about possible plastic surgery in the future and I came to the conclusion that its the same skin I have had for my whole entire life and guess what? I love every floppy inch of it. Try to think of your skin as being your friend. its the biggest organ we have and it is our protector. I think once you start looking at your skin with love now you will then be able to love it no matter what it looks like. Now as for that stomach of mine I was glad to be seperated from it cause it would make me do things I regreted....lol. Stay focued on the weight loss first and then worry about the aesthetics later. Health first, Beauty last. After all. we are all going to end up with the same aging outer shell and all we need to worry about doing is getting to that age and that is where your health is key.

People seem to forget that death is always a risk with surgery. Patients who have comorbidities, such as diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problems, lung problems, etc., are at a greater risk than those who do not have such issues. The risk of death is small for a relatively healthy person. However, every patient needs to be aware of the risks before going into this.

I told everyone capable of hearing and still do.

i forgot to tell you why i tell everyone. I want everyone to know that this was my saving grace in life. I want others to be inspired by this decision cause they may want to make the same steps and they may need a hand to hold. I have always been an open person though. I am an open book and if people dont like my decision they can fly a kite....lol

@@tiffanymarie6997
You should have said "I am not pretty, I am Beautiful! and don't ever say something so ugly to me again in your life!"
(Then you do a hair flip and walk away like you own the place.)

I lost 7lbs on the 2 week pre op diet. I was 315lbs pre op, 308lbs day of surgery and I am now 272lbs. I am 5'5" and my surgery date was March 10th

@@Daisydawn34
I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.

@@Daisydawn34
I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.

@@Daisydawn34
I would just tell them "I can die driving but you let me out of the house to do that every day". Anyone can die doing anything. When its your time its your time. Tell them to stop being selfish and start making this journey about you and not them.

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I have not experianced this but I would like to say that if she truely loves you she will be your biggest cheerleader, sure she may be a little envious but all in all she will have to come to terms with it. Maybe instead of her possibly sabatoging you, You can help her help you through this journey. You can both eat right and exercise together. Your friendship will become stronger by helping each other through this process.