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    init4me reacted to Katie713 in Any Sleevers out there from San Fernando/Santa Clarita CA?   
    Almost 10 months out - went thru Kaiser Panorama City - but had surgery at Kaiser West L.A. really happy with the bariatric program and how it all panned out. I would never have imagined that this dream came true for me. I have been a slow loser and I am at a standstill right now, but slow and sure has worked for me. I have to really push now to try and get alot closer to goal.
    How about you? Have you reached your goal yet?
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    init4me got a reaction from ProudGrammy in "so How Much Weight Have You Lost?" Rant   
    This is actually how I feel!!!! I don't mind telling someone what I've done ( but that only to people I think are intelligent to handle the information). When people ask how much weight I've lost I might tell them the actual or I'll just say a pretty good amount and leave it at that...when they are stupid enough to keep pressing I'll just look at them and smile
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    init4me got a reaction from maxskillz in Emotional Vampires & Toxic People   
    I did most of the housecleaning when I was still heavy. Most of the people I have around me now are pretty positive. I say most because I have two people I work with that are pretty insensitive. They made it very known that they did NOT support my surgery decision and made it known to patients ( we work in a dental office and I would let patient know about what I was going to do and these two yahoo's would take them in the back to work on them and tell them that they don't support it and why). Now they have egg on their face...I'm now 80 lbs down AND off all my diabetic , blood pressure and cholesterol meds...that's 13 pills I'm NOT taking because I was so stupid to do the surgery. I make it very known that they can kiss my lily white ass ( oh and by the way...it's now a smaller ass to kiss). So I love being around by supportive family ( friends, family and other co-workers). The others...well what ever.
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    init4me reacted to crosswind in Hope For Second Year Sleevers   
    I got on the scale today and it said: 179.8.
    I'm making this announcement because I want people to know that so far, my year-long experiment with sleeve eating has not been a failure. If you've ever read my posts before, you know that I am not dieting with the sleeve. I am not lowcarbing. My calories are not at starvation level and they have not been since I got my surgery last April. My actually surgery was March 29, but I mostly count it as April 1 just to round everything out.
    Okay so the thing is, there is research out there that says that people typically lose sixty percent of their weight in the first year and that's all you get. There is research that says that you will "stretch" your sleeve after six months or so, lose your "honeymoon" with your sleeve, stop losing and get stuck. There are surgeons who say you *have to* be on a lowcarb diet of 800 calories for the rest of your life or you won't lose the weight, and they say that you need to exercise like a demon *while* you're eating that 800 and you have to stay like that forever or you'll get fat again.
    I want to tell you that in my experience this is not true.
    What I want to tell you is that I got the sleeve because I was 46 and SO FAT -- I weighed 289 -- and I was at the end of my rope. I had dieted before and gotten the weight off only to regain it and the way I did that is pretty much to follow all the instructions above. Eating 800 lowcarb calories a day will get you to goal weight, there is no doubt,but in my opinion that's just no way to live and it's impossible to sustain. It also creates such intense anxiety about eating and your body and your food that it creates a horrible unending complex about fat, and feeding yourself, that the cure is worse than the disease.
    I got my surgery in March. I was *severely* depressed and the reason I was depressed primarily was because I WAS SO FAT. I really hated myself. But I decided that the fat was emotional mostly and so what I was going to do was this. I was going to lose weight without dieting by having a surgeon remove eighty five percent of my stomach. And knowing that was taken care of and I had done the most *extreme* thing I could possibly do to solve my weight problem, I was going to let it come off naturally, eat normally and not push myself or punish myself because obsessing over my weight has basically been my career since I was 13 years old.
    I had this thought once when I was watching Oprah Winfrey. All that woman ever talked about was her weight. All she ever did was look at the scale. Every time she lost fifty pounds it made the freakin national news and when she gained the weight back she made this weird confession and apology to everyone in the world. So obviously she was obsessed but what I really thought was holy crap, really? Imagine what Oprah could have accomplished with her life if she was not spending seventy five percent of her time obsessing over her pants size. Imagine what *I* could do if this was NO LONGER A PROBLEM for me and when I say NO LONGER A PROBLEM I mean I NEVER HAVE TO THINK OR WORRY ABOUT IT AGAIN.
    So really....I was looking for more than weight loss. I wanted to be healed. Completely.
    So the weight has come off really slow. In August of last year, I weighed 237. In November, I weighed 222. In January, 209. On April 1, my surgiversary, I weighed about 190. I've gone on vacation, I've drunk numerous glasses of wine, I've eaten cake and Pasta and carbs, I've avoided cardio really for the most part -- but my calories are *naturally* way under what I would need to sustain these weights and so....slowly....it's coming off. And it's still coming off and it has now been *over* a year.
    I think I'm going to hit goal eventually. This will be without dieting, without worrying about the "honeymoon period", and without forcing myself to do ninety hours of cardio a week. And when I get there there's not going to be some freakout/rebound where I now have to figure out what "maintenance" is and be on the verge of shooting myself in the head because I had a piece of birthday cake or a piece of gum with sugar in it.
    So this is what I want to say:
    If you're just starting this project ( I refuse to say journey -- UGH) then realize that patience is required. Plan on a year *or more*. Even if you believe the honeymoon thing you're not going to drop all your weight *inside* your "honeymoon" so think about it...what are you going to do when it's over? Because you're still going to have to lose a lot of weight and you're going to have to sustain whatever you're doing for the rest of your life. It's frustrating that such an extreme solution is not instantaneous, but it is NOT, so prepare yourself. You're going to be working on this for at least a year. A year is a long time and you can't just not be alive for a year while you get thin. I didn't have that year to waste and you don't either.
    If you're just starting this project, consider what you want your life to be as a thin person. Not a "formerly fat" person. Not a constantly dieting, obsessed person. This is what you'll be free of when it's done, so prepare by starting now and living your life.
    And finally: Prepare for the idea that you may not lose all your weight in the first year. But remember this post by me and realize that you *will* very likely get exactly where you are going by the end of the second one and forget all that stuff about first years and honeymoons. This is not magic, it's science. It's mechanics. The mechanism that uses energy that is your body will continuously be operating at a deficit *even after* the honeymoon, *even after* the first year, and that means you *will* get there. You *have to*.
    This requires patience, and then more patience. That's really the *only* think you need going into this. The rest, I really promise you -- will take care of itself.
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    init4me got a reaction from @DomLorenVSG in Emotional Vampires & Toxic People   
    My own sister said that this will cause a divorce....I was stunned. She has MS...so I just attributed that to it, but I let her know that she overstepped her boundary with me. She hasn't talked to me since BEFORE the surgery...June 25th...oh well.
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    init4me got a reaction from maxskillz in Emotional Vampires & Toxic People   
    I did most of the housecleaning when I was still heavy. Most of the people I have around me now are pretty positive. I say most because I have two people I work with that are pretty insensitive. They made it very known that they did NOT support my surgery decision and made it known to patients ( we work in a dental office and I would let patient know about what I was going to do and these two yahoo's would take them in the back to work on them and tell them that they don't support it and why). Now they have egg on their face...I'm now 80 lbs down AND off all my diabetic , blood pressure and cholesterol meds...that's 13 pills I'm NOT taking because I was so stupid to do the surgery. I make it very known that they can kiss my lily white ass ( oh and by the way...it's now a smaller ass to kiss). So I love being around by supportive family ( friends, family and other co-workers). The others...well what ever.
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    init4me got a reaction from maxskillz in Emotional Vampires & Toxic People   
    I did most of the housecleaning when I was still heavy. Most of the people I have around me now are pretty positive. I say most because I have two people I work with that are pretty insensitive. They made it very known that they did NOT support my surgery decision and made it known to patients ( we work in a dental office and I would let patient know about what I was going to do and these two yahoo's would take them in the back to work on them and tell them that they don't support it and why). Now they have egg on their face...I'm now 80 lbs down AND off all my diabetic , blood pressure and cholesterol meds...that's 13 pills I'm NOT taking because I was so stupid to do the surgery. I make it very known that they can kiss my lily white ass ( oh and by the way...it's now a smaller ass to kiss). So I love being around by supportive family ( friends, family and other co-workers). The others...well what ever.
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    init4me got a reaction from maxskillz in Emotional Vampires & Toxic People   
    I did most of the housecleaning when I was still heavy. Most of the people I have around me now are pretty positive. I say most because I have two people I work with that are pretty insensitive. They made it very known that they did NOT support my surgery decision and made it known to patients ( we work in a dental office and I would let patient know about what I was going to do and these two yahoo's would take them in the back to work on them and tell them that they don't support it and why). Now they have egg on their face...I'm now 80 lbs down AND off all my diabetic , blood pressure and cholesterol meds...that's 13 pills I'm NOT taking because I was so stupid to do the surgery. I make it very known that they can kiss my lily white ass ( oh and by the way...it's now a smaller ass to kiss). So I love being around by supportive family ( friends, family and other co-workers). The others...well what ever.
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    init4me reacted to bettyanne6249 in 3.5 Months Out - Bleeding   
    Dorrie, your response was nice and helpful. Iggychic, if you are going to get so annoyed over a question like this, don't respond. Someone who is asking for help doesn't need your condescending tone.
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    init4me got a reaction from Cresteds Mom in When Will I Stop Regretting Having This Done?   
    I never regretted the fact that I did it, but I had some "poor me" days while I went through the first 6 weeks.
    Now I feel great ....and best of all yesterday I just got told to go off all my diabetic meds...no more meds!
    No one can blow sunshine up your ass, and make you feel good...your just gonna have to do it yourself. It sucks sometimes, but .....you know what I'll say.....
    Good Luck!
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    init4me reacted to Randgalt in Premier Protein Recipe   
    1 Pre-made Premier vanilla Protein shake
    4-5 Slices frozen banana
    Few drops of vanilla
    Small pinch brown sugar
    Blend until smooth. It's awesome!!!
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    init4me got a reaction from samsmom in Starting To Get Noticed.....the Good And The Bad..   
    People can be so insensitive ( some mean to and other's are just clueless).
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    init4me got a reaction from samsmom in Starting To Get Noticed.....the Good And The Bad..   
    People can be so insensitive ( some mean to and other's are just clueless).
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    init4me got a reaction from slojo in Starting To Get Noticed.....the Good And The Bad..   
    Hey all!
    Wanted to find out what others have done, thought, or said ( or not) when they have encountered people who hadn't seen them in a while and then say something like....oh! you looks so much prettier...just got that one from one of my patients ( I work at a dental office). This morning I got from someone who works on our equipment ( bear in mind I'm married and he's....I guess you would call it married). Hey your looking a lot cuter....maybe I should start flirting with you too ( he REALLY flirts with another skinny girl that is married and works here. I told him....ahhh thanks,but that isn't gonna get you anywhere....and by the way I was cute when I was heavier too ( jerk off). He didn't say anything.... Anyhoo I've had some really great compliments from many people too. It's just the one's that treated you like trash before and now that your more acceptable they are different to you...makes me want to smack them. Suggestions?
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    init4me got a reaction from slojo in Starting To Get Noticed.....the Good And The Bad..   
    Hey all!
    Wanted to find out what others have done, thought, or said ( or not) when they have encountered people who hadn't seen them in a while and then say something like....oh! you looks so much prettier...just got that one from one of my patients ( I work at a dental office). This morning I got from someone who works on our equipment ( bear in mind I'm married and he's....I guess you would call it married). Hey your looking a lot cuter....maybe I should start flirting with you too ( he REALLY flirts with another skinny girl that is married and works here. I told him....ahhh thanks,but that isn't gonna get you anywhere....and by the way I was cute when I was heavier too ( jerk off). He didn't say anything.... Anyhoo I've had some really great compliments from many people too. It's just the one's that treated you like trash before and now that your more acceptable they are different to you...makes me want to smack them. Suggestions?
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    init4me reacted to TracyLynn in Starting To Get Noticed.....the Good And The Bad..   
    Smacking them is a good idea! Ha ha, but really what you said to the guy working on the machines was good, we are all the same person that we used to be, just with less weight. I look forward to making snide comments to rude people. I am still in the can't yet tell unless you are with me all the time stage. Good luck!
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    init4me got a reaction from OneBigTeddyBear in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    You would really question someone on their post?? Who cares if the chick had sex right out of surgery! Some people want it and some people don't. She was replying to the question that someone asked. If you don't believe it then move on to the next question, why start a "I don't think your telling the truth thing". ...Good Luck to ya.
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    init4me got a reaction from Kalimomof3 in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    Can we all just get along.....and have SEX.....LOL. Whew what a thread!
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    init4me got a reaction from Kalimomof3 in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    Can we all just get along.....and have SEX.....LOL. Whew what a thread!
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    init4me got a reaction from Mschristmas in Anybody Going Through Kaiser West Los Angeles? Dr. Um?   
    Hi ya,
    I too had surgery at Kaiser West LA with Dr. Zelada on June 25. My only complaint was with the PRE-op anesthesiologist Dr. Reuben...he told me to drink Clear Liquids until 6 am the MORNING of my surgery...I told him that Dr. Zelada told me 12 midnight ....he said " I don't want you coming in here dehydrated...go ahead until 6 am" which I did. It almost canc'd my surgery. I would of had my hands around his little neck if it would of. Dr. Zelada and his team were sooo cool they had me stay in pre-op so I could get what I had out of my system and stayed a bit late for me to do the surgery. Everything else was just fine.
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    init4me got a reaction from Kalimomof3 in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    Can we all just get along.....and have SEX.....LOL. Whew what a thread!
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    init4me got a reaction from pasquini in Staying Focused During A Stall Or Extended Slow Loss Period.   
    Geeez....I needed that! Thank oh soo much for the kinda swift kick in the behind. I like the fact that a it's from a guys point of view too. I have a bunch of girlfriends, but no guy friends going through the same thing.
    Thank you, thank you, thank you!
    Heather
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    init4me got a reaction from Kalimomof3 in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    Can we all just get along.....and have SEX.....LOL. Whew what a thread!
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    init4me reacted to StormWarning in How Long After Surgery Did You Wait To Have Sex?   
    I meant no harm or disrespect in my post and I am sorry if it offended anyone or caused a disturbance. No one knows the body like the person who is living inside it. My doctor had no restrictions and its even published in his book.
    Pg. 86 Question 11.
    When can I resume having sex?
    "whenever the patient feels good about it. It is very important that the patient understands that having sex will not cause the sleeve to burst, or a staple to pop, nor will it cause the sleeve to leak. Having sex does not interfere at all with the sleeve. So as soon as the patient feels good about having sex, he or she can resume sexual activity".
    I just answered the question, I stated ahead of time that my doctor had no restrictions, and it was up to me and how I felt as I will know if I am in pain or not. I fully understand that every doctor is different as you can read from all the other post, I answered just like everyone else. And this may be too much information, but someone mentioned about orgasms, well orgasms do make your abdominal muscles contract and clinch and some may feel pain but was not in my case.
    I am saddened that one or more people can be bashed or called out from another s' response, and it appears it was my post that caused it cause someone had a problem with what I said. We are all here for advice, friendship, and information. We all have different experiences, information from doctor, and different tummies too. We all know and understand what works for one doesn't necessarily work for others, and of course we all know that we go by what OUR doctors say anyway despite what another was allowed to do or not do.

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