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Aww, Im sorry. you will have days like that. It has been a yr for me and I still get sore around my port site. You will figure out what does it and avoid it, sometimes I cant even sleep on that side. But dont worry it is nothing that you wont be able to deal with.

I have a new hero. Thanks for the inspiration.

I have a new hero. Thanks for the inspiration.

Maybe he is getting a tiny bit insecure. He might need to have his ego stroked a little. Is he one of those who subconsciously tries to feed you, like maybe bringing home ice cream or chocolate. My husband started doing things like that and I brought it to his attention and asked him not to do that, he acted like he didn't even know he was doing it. Try including him when you by clothes and stuff, And ask his opinion about stuff, and make him think this is for him as much as it is for you. He will eventually come around. Good Luck.

Please don't listen to the idiot troll Awanda, she/he/it is hitting every thread on here talking complete BS.
Overcoming emotional eating and grazing is hard. I know that's something I've always struggled with too. I find distracting myself helps. I know this is going to sound weird, but night is my hardest time, so I've kinda "trained" my brain. Every night I brush my teeth and take a hot bath when I feel the urge to graze. Now, it's like a signal to my brain "oh it's bath and clean teeth time, we're done eating for the night". I know it sounds weird but it's worked.
I also find keep safe food around for when I just have to have something. I really like both dill pickles and cucumbers. Both are zero calories, so when I need something I grab one.
Hang in there.

Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate all everyone does on here.

Yesterday i did 1.5 miles on the tradmill, and today I did 2 miles. I cant believe I did it. I can remember when I could only do 10 minutes at a time. Now I am up to 45 minutes. wooo hoooo!!!! The walk I am doing is for Scottish Rite Childrens hospital. I can do this!!!!

Good for you!
My hubby suggested a cancer 5K walk. I think that would be great!

I agree. I hate when people squeeze in to clothes that don't fit them. Its really ugly and makes you look unkept I agree. I still wear long shirts even in a 14 because of my belly.

Do you know this was the first year my husband asked and I actually gave him my sizes.... In previous years he'd say... I dont know your size but never asked me for it.... LOL
I agree with you on the clothes issue... why heavier people shove themselves into small clothing or styles not appropriate for their figure is beyond me. I didnt do it when I was fat and I am not going to do it now... I am 52 for god sakes... I do not need to be wearing a short skirt... just because I can. LOL

Are you by chance still wearing old clothes that don't show the loss? I know on days that I wear my old clothes (always kept them in hopes I would return one day, and I am woohoo ) that fit more snug, people actually notice, but with baggier clothes (really trying to hold out on buying clothes as I keep going down pretty steadily) no one says a thing. But it may help I work in an environment with a lot of nurses, doctors, and health minded people, so they encourage getting healthier, if that makes sense. Like LovetheNewMe said, they may be jealous or just not know how or what to say. I have one person who is always complementing me, but at the same time, says she is afraid that she does not want to offend me in the same conversation. Like people don't want to make you feel bad about what you used to look like I suppose is what she means.

I saw some people after a 65 lb. loss and not one word and it hurt me. Next time I see these cousins will be around March or April.
What counts is my husband, sons and their wives (one not so much because I now wear her size) and my brother's family.
Just smile!

Some people just don't say anything our of jealousy or they may not know what to say. Now I find people ask me if I am sick. Just be positive and know you are losing and I know the results are there.

I just have to keep telling myself that people aren't as focused on me changing as much as I am. And that men are dumb. Happy Losing!
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Yesterday I was at my fav new addiction...my local consignment shop and found a pair of lucky brand jeans for $4.67. My daughter said they were an expensive brand..... Who knew?
I did not have time to try them on but figured they wouldn't fit since they were a size 8 but i eyeballed it and figured at that price For $125 pair of jeans i could resell them on eBay or something....lol. As luck would have it.... They fit. I was so jazzed... It's a long way from the 4x bottoms I used to buy to cover my 77 " hips!!
Congrats on your loss.

put on a smile on that gorgeous face
put on a pair of your highest high heels
those big girl panties (you mentioned)
and walk forward and dont forget to look back over your shoulders behind you.......WHY??
because the banded b's are right there behind you.....we got your back...
(ps---AJ is packing)......

awww, I;m so sorry for you. It will get better. Just look back at all the hard times, and how you made it through it. You never think you will but you always do. It will be the same this time. It may seem like it lasts forever, but before long you will look back and say to yourself. "well I made it, dont know how but I did". So what you ate somethings you thought you shouldnt have, Its not like you do it everyday, right?? Keep your chin up and cheer up, you think better when your happy. Take care of yourself, and good luck.

Girl you will be fine. I wish you the best. No matter what stay in the race. I have lost 108 pounds so if I can do it you can to. go to youtube, and type in youjuswaitnsee, just like that and look at my video. That is my journey. Still working on it. I take a lot of all natural stuff that has truly helped me with this wonderful tool. I only had 3 fills in 2 years, I put it in my mind and GOD has given me strength to stay in the race. Peace and Blessings. Hey can you get on the chat. Something is going on over here.

Its been really hard for me also. What I have been doing is my fitness pal, and logging everything I eat and trying to stay in the calorie range it set for me. It has helped me quite a bit, plus you know you have to log it, so you think before you eat. That is the only thing helping me so far. will be glad for the surgery, and get this part over with. Sometimes all I eat is 2 protein shakes and soup for supper. Surprisingly I havent been that hungry and when I get hungry I just eat. Good luck and if you come up with some other good stuff let me know, ok?

omgsh, Your poor brain. lol. Husband has asked me about stuff like that.He thinks if I can loose weight before the surgery on my own, than why have surgery. I try to explain to him. I have lost a large amount of weight in the past, with the use of prescription meds. I lost about 60 pounds in a year. Well they only let me have them for a year. It was super stressful trying to fight my hunger and 30 years of bad eating habits without some "help" i.e. pills. I kept it off for 2 years and then it just crept back on. What I am trying to say is, yes you can get it off with pills and stuff, but will it stay off? For me I know it wont.
At least this way I am forced to eat right. No more eating like a pig one day and starving the next, I feel like the lapband is going to force me to make new habits,and from what I have read, if I do try to eat wrong, it will probably be the last time, because of the consequences, and I am not that hard headed, I dont like it when bad things start happening. I know you have probably been racking your brains trying to decide. Just remember once it is off, you want it to stay off. If you can do that on your own, then that is wonderful, I just know I couldn't. Good luck to you and let us know.

It sounds like you gals dont think you deserve to be happy and healthy and slim and trim. I know it sounds wierd but it is probly pretty close. No one is going to help you but you. Sure you have lots of support, and yes they are helping you, but they can only help you if you allow it. Your loved ones, get pure joy out of seeing you happy, believe it or not. Every person on this earth deserves to be happy. Dont hold yourself back. Take control of YOU. Look at yourself in the mirror every morning and look yourself in your eye, and tell yourself. "You are beautiful and deserve to be happier than you could ever imagine". I know it sounds silly, but it works. Come on and get to your goals, dont let yourself down. You wouldnt want to let anyone else you love down. Tell yourself everyday I CAN DO THIS!!!

Started at that same weight.....good luck on your journey and congrats on the weight loss, just remember the more weight you can loose befor surgery the better. I was 213 the day I went in for surgery and I'm at 173 today. It's definitely a battle to stay on track but it is so rewarding.

oh sweety, I am so so sorry you are going thru this. Try not to pay any attention to your loved ones who are saying the negative things. They are just misguided and they don't understand and probably never will understand. You are more now than ever a wonderful member of this forum. Now you have been there and done that, you can help tons of people. Turn this around and make it positive if you can. Go ahead and cry, and then dry it up and say ok this happened for a reason, and go on do what you are lead to do. Im sure it will be to help others..

oh sweety, I am so so sorry you are going thru this. Try not to pay any attention to your loved ones who are saying the negative things. They are just misguided and they don't understand and probably never will understand. You are more now than ever a wonderful member of this forum. Now you have been there and done that, you can help tons of people. Turn this around and make it positive if you can. Go ahead and cry, and then dry it up and say ok this happened for a reason, and go on do what you are lead to do. Im sure it will be to help others..