slojo67

Good luck on the smoking i stopped 4 months ago to have plastic surgery and i used champix too, i am struggling a little now as i cant substitute food for cigs but am hanging in there too...
Its nice breathing fresh air again tho
good luck with the surgery !

Yahoo!

I'm so sorry for you that don't have support at home,that sucks! I don't have a lot of support at home but i haven't had surgery yet so we'll see. But i can hear my husband saying things like "aren't you suppose to lose weight faster than this?" "or you could've done this without surgery if you just tried harder" Then i tell him to fall off the face of the earth if you don't shut the _ _ _ _ up! for real, i don't tolerate talk like that. I hope you husbands, boyfriends all come around. People are mean to us bandsters sometimes,and not just at home...

way to go!!

I read once that "Success Happens Because You Make It Happen" and you have made it happen! I am having my procedure in one week...so I hope to be half as successful as you. I am starting at 407...
Thanks for the inspiration! Any tips for the temptations?

Great job!! Success feels good, doesn't it?! I bet your body is so thankful you made those lifestyle changes. Keep up the good work, and keep shocking your WLS team!!

Awesome job! Keep up the good work!!

You are doing AWESOME! So proud for your success!

Thanks! I appreciate the encouraging words

You've come along way in a short time, that is really awesome!!! You should be VERY proud of yourself...The band helps, but YOU'VE made the changes that have made this success story to be...

I can sympathize... I haven't even told my bf about my surgery plans and I am 48 days out!!
"luckily" we aren't married, but I know he would say I am beng ridiculous and do not need it. My psych thought it was very strange, but as I told her...
We are a little uneven and at times I definitely can't see us lasting long term.
Bottom line - this surgery is for ME. I am an emotional eater b/c I put everyone else first. I am going to be selfish with this. My health - heck, my LIFE - is worth more than his issues with it.
I am sorry you are going thru this, but thank goodness you are cognizant of what's going on. It's an unfortunate extra hurdle for you. And I hope and pray I lose two pounds a week consistently!!
Please always feel free to reach out to me and we will push through together!

I suggest you try not to harbor the anger and sit down and have an open and honest discussion about how you need his support and the things he is doing to sabbotage it. Perhaps some reassurance that you love him, etc. and your love will grow stronger by him being supportive and encouraging. If you aren't able to have that conversation, perhaps some couples' counseling? Not to sound extreme but you deserve that.
When I was married, my husband did similar things. He would want me to lose weight but sabbotage my efforts by foods he would buy or prepare, etc. If he was serving my plate, he would pile it high. It eventually became evident to me that, yah, he would love to have a "thin" me but was very insecure in himself and felt I would become more attractive to others. It was actually very subtle and controlling behavior in my situation.
When I went for my pre-op appts, this also came up with the pyschologist. He said some men will get jealous as the woman loses weight (or vice versa) and as the other gets more attention, feels better about themself, etc. It sounds like your husband's comments, food purchases, etc. now are a subtle way of him trying to sabbotage this new lifestyle again.
I hope you are able to stay strong, stay focused and not let his insecurities get the best of you. This isn't just for appearance, it is your health at stake. I hope you have a strong support system around you if he cannot be that for you, such as close family, friends, local support group, etc. Sorry you are going through this and perhaps you continuing to persevere and avoid those "muffins and icecream" too will help you feel good inside about what a strong person you have become!
You deserve this - and yes, 2 lbs. a week is a great goal! Best of luck to you.

I'm sorry if this is offensive, but he sounds like an insecure d**k. I'm sorry to say but it sounds like you are on your on (physically) but virtually you have support!! Good luck and check in often.

Have you told your husband firmly to stop buying the crap for you? Sometimes this change can be rough for our partners- they somehow get it in their minds that when we lose the weight, we will suddenly become new people who will move on to bigger and better fish.

I guess I better not ever complain about my $20.00 co-pay for my fill again.... or the 25 minute drive down to the medical center.

good luck!!!

There is no way I could have done that. I was way too sore and enjoyed resting in my cool quiet bed. It takes awhile for the anesthesia to leave your body and they gas up your stomach so they can properly place the band so most people feel swollen and groggy for at least a day or two. I love SeaWorld too, better to use your money on a day you can really enjoy it. Best wishes to you.

3-4 hours post-op? I was sleeping

oh, one day post op. I had a lot of left upper shoulder pain. I could move around my house okay. I don't usually take pain meds but I did take the Lortab elixir several times for 2-3 days following my band. I was banded at 6am and home by 11am. The next day I was pooped!

........gohs, if you are able to do this, more power to you and let me bow at your feet... but i would not have been able too. was groogy, tired, thirsty and in some pain (not alot but my belly def sore). if you do, go slow and be careful. ps, i love sea world too

I could not have done it one day post-op.

So are you saying that you have 4 hours until you have surgery that you want to go to Sea World? If thats the case I would say go and enjoy but make sure you leave enough time to check in and do pro-op procedures. Now if you want to go after you have the surgery I would not recommend it. I had my surgery at 2:00 in the afternoon and was up in my room around 4:00. I was wide awake but uncomfortable. I certainly did not feel like walking around that day. The next day I got up and walked around the hospital, showered and dressed. by the time my husband and I flew home I was exhausted and went straight to bed. I finally felt really good after a week and could do everything I normally did before the surgery. I struggled with my eating for about a week until I could put together a journal of what would go down what wouldn't. Scrambled eggs are horrible for me, so is rice and any type of pasta. So I pass on them completely. Please make sure you stay away from any type of bread. Man when that stuff gets stuck you are hurting until it passes. Its been 10 years since my lap band and I've been at the point for quite a few years that I no longer get fills and my weight has stayed steady for the past 6 years. I do exercise every day though!!

OMG! That's funny, it's a good thing you have a sense of humor. I would've been pissed...You're funny...

I think if you feel okay and you're not getting "stuck" or vomitting then I would consider waiting a week or so and see how you feel... you don't want to unfill too much and start gaining again...

hey i think you need to get some of the fill out only because you don't want to dehydrate i have a band and ive been having it for three years iwent from 210 to 115 in a year that's with fill of course