O.T.R. sleever

Yup, you hit the nail right on the head, it's all about calories. Whether you choose to reduce you're intake or increase the number you burn, that's the only choice
As far as it being a failure, I for one don't view it that way, you've lost almost 90lbs!! And comparing your loss to your husbands is simply not fair to you.
The simple fact is men& women are different. It may not be politically correct but it's true. Women typically carry much less muscle on them, & they tend to be smaller framed.
So if your caloric intake is the same as you're husbands then it does make sense that his loss would be greater. His body burns more calories at rest simply because of the existence of more muscle tissue. Then when you both do the same exercise, he is engaging larger muscles therefore he is burning more calories.
I know this really is not what most ladies want to hear, but I hope this helps you. You've come a long way, don't get discouraged now. It's time to adapt & overcome.
YOU CAN DO IT

Yup, you hit the nail right on the head, it's all about calories. Whether you choose to reduce you're intake or increase the number you burn, that's the only choice
As far as it being a failure, I for one don't view it that way, you've lost almost 90lbs!! And comparing your loss to your husbands is simply not fair to you.
The simple fact is men& women are different. It may not be politically correct but it's true. Women typically carry much less muscle on them, & they tend to be smaller framed.
So if your caloric intake is the same as you're husbands then it does make sense that his loss would be greater. His body burns more calories at rest simply because of the existence of more muscle tissue. Then when you both do the same exercise, he is engaging larger muscles therefore he is burning more calories.
I know this really is not what most ladies want to hear, but I hope this helps you. You've come a long way, don't get discouraged now. It's time to adapt & overcome.
YOU CAN DO IT

I've not heard of a case yet where the surgeon has gotten into the or & called off a VSG surgery. The few that I have heard being cancelled were due to the patient's health (illness, infections) & those were simply rescheduled for a later date.

I don't volunteer it to anybody except my wife, best friend, & mom. But I also don't consider it a secret, these are the people I talk to the most. If anybody asks notices I don hesitate to lay it out for them.
The reason I don't volunteer the news is, it's become my experience that most people have no idea what VSG is and immediately equate it to RNY & all the horror stories tied to it. I simpl don't have the time or desire to educate 1/2 the local population on VSG

Since I know you have a droid, I'd check the app market & get an accessory for that device (unless you are ready to upgrade to an iPhone )

NSV. Is short for non scale victory. Something not related to the number on the scale. Like one of my first was my son telling me he could fit his arms around me further lol

I hope so, I've been drinking it since 72hrs post op

Welcome Carl's, and yup you sound like the rest of us;)

I hope so, I've been drinking it since 72hrs post op

Ankle weights

"Success is falling nine times and getting up ten."
Jon Bon Jovi
Slips are gonna happen, you had a couple of 2500cal days while on a pre-op diet that is self imposed. I seem to remember you stating a typical day would have been in the 5K calorie range.... You're 2day slip still left you 5000 calories lower than you would have been a couple weeks ago. You've done great, better than I ever would have on sheer will power.
You will get back up, you will succeed, because with the willpower & strength you have, failure is not an option

It's powder, but makes more of like a juice (depending on how much Water you add) than anything else. It does NOT give me the dry feeling that the isopure does. I'm still drinking isopure top, but enjoying the Syntrax better (syntrax is the brand...nectar is the "line" of powders). Highly recommend the sample pack, since people seem to vary on the flavors they like. I ordered it from mybariatricpantry.com and it came on only a few days

How about a non judgmental straight guy that always seem to find himself hanging out in the g/l communities? Close enough?

No offense taken at all. I know my path is not the one most people choose, nor should they, I am more self indulgent than most people so I knew that if I gave up good food before I absolutely had to I'd regret it.
As far as a lifestyle change, I absolutely do view this as that, I'll never again be able to sit down and eat a whole Five Guys bacon cheeseburger, or a 22oz bone in ribeye, or have a full plate of seafood portofino w/calamari appetizer ...... This is all a good thing, as that is exactly what brought me to where I was 2weeks ago.
I'm only 10 days out and I already am seeing huge improvements. I can walk now, without being in pain, my feet are sore from all the walking I've been doing, but they aren't swelling up like they did before. I'm even looking forward to getting back on a dirt bike and playing in the mud(I haven't done that in 20yrs).
I'm not saying the path I chose is right fore anybody but me, I'm saying that is what I did & I have no regrets
You do what is right for you. I'm behind you 100%.

Glad to see you've locked it down, and got your mind made up. You're gonna do great. Unfortunately I'm a guy, but I'm sure there will be plenty of ladies around.

The key here is exercise. Skin will shrink (all be it slower than the weight loss) but exercise does miracles for your body, and yes, even stimulates you're skin to tighten. Success is dependent on a lifestyle change, not just a diet change.
Keep positive, and keep focused. ????????

Couple things. The first few days after surgery you're stomach is very swollen & irritated so it will fill up faster. Secondly your body can only process between 20-27 grams in one sitting (ladies are typically closer to the 20g) so eating 50 grams in a sitting is absolutely useless. I understand this is not easy, I've cheated a bit myself, but the big sacrifice is short lived. A little momentary satisfaction will never bring you true happiness.
"Don't give up what you want most for what you want right now"

Hi Veronica, I'm 9 days post op, and can tell you the absolute worst part of this whole ordeal was all the doubt and worrying befor the surgery. It's really been pretty easy since the surgery, and that being said with the knowledge that not everything went perfectly. I had a couple small issues one being that I became combative coming out of anesthesia (that kinda scares me that I can be that way) and the second was that the drain either wasn't placed properly or didn't work properly. Either way a few sets of bandage changes an everything was fine. The only regret I have is that I didn't do this sooner(I know that sounds cliché). I've given up the last 10 years of my life to low self esteem and self hatred. I couldn't walk more than 100 yards without back pain. I can't really explain why but I've had no pain of any kind since my surgery. I have a new lease on life, and soon you will to.

I'm thinking big & long term on this one. My reward to myself when I hit goal weight is a really nice custom tailored suit. Haven't decided on whethered it's gonna be Brooks Bros or Armani yet but it's gonna be rrediculously expensive & I'm gonna look great in it

Hi Veronica, I'm 9 days post op, and can tell you the absolute worst part of this whole ordeal was all the doubt and worrying befor the surgery. It's really been pretty easy since the surgery, and that being said with the knowledge that not everything went perfectly. I had a couple small issues one being that I became combative coming out of anesthesia (that kinda scares me that I can be that way) and the second was that the drain either wasn't placed properly or didn't work properly. Either way a few sets of bandage changes an everything was fine. The only regret I have is that I didn't do this sooner(I know that sounds cliché). I've given up the last 10 years of my life to low self esteem and self hatred. I couldn't walk more than 100 yards without back pain. I can't really explain why but I've had no pain of any kind since my surgery. I have a new lease on life, and soon you will to.

Adahlia, has anybody lately told you how beautiful you are? Absolutely stunning.
I do have to say I feel your pain. I would kill for a Five Guys burger about now. And the taste that seems to linger is very unpleasant.
This too shall pass, the season is short, & our lives will be richer & longer for the sacrifices we make today. BTW I was sleeved on th 23rd also