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MrzSongbird

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    MrzSongbird reacted to GivingItMyAll in Freaking Out......   
    I got really nervous the moment I got the call that I was approved. That made it real for me, all the hoops I jumped through were like I was just going through the motions. After the approval I had many sleepless nights and crazy dreams. It's totally normal. I am now 2 1/2 weeks out without a moment of regret. The post op liquid phase is boring, but very manageable. I'm now on purées and feel like so many new foods are open to me.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Ready4success in The Waiting Unite   
    My psych eval was really easy going. They ask about previous attempts at weightloss, do you exercise, attempts at changing your life style, etc. Probably the most importat thing to say is that you understand that this surgery is a "tool" to help you lose weight. Good Luck!
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    MrzSongbird reacted to BizTraveller in Freaking Out......   
    I have no idea if this is helpful, but it is meant to be.... I just has my surgery 4 days ago. I am a very decisive guy (I worked as a pilot and air traffic controller), but this decision had me really second-guessing myselself for one of the few times in my life. There is clearly a lot of emotion tied up with this for everyone.
    But there are times when emotions can't rule you're life. I decided this was one of those moments, so I just checked the reasons I decided to do this in the first place. They were valid, it was the right thing to do, so I just told the voice in my head to shut-up and plowed through it.
    It was no big deal. A crappy couple days, but I have had worse cases of the flu. The pain was nil. Not a moment of regret since. The post-op diet is way easier than Pre-op.
    In two months I will be settled into a "new normal" life. In 7 years I will be retired and will be helping relief agencies fly supplies into war zones and disasters. I will be eating little portions with heroes in some of the toughest places in the world. None of that would ever happen if I listened to the nagging voices in my head. I had to decide to listen to the new ones.
    I am sure you had good reasons to come this far. Let them speak this time.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to IMSKINNY in Freaking Out......   
    I felt the exact same way! It seemed to subside when I was told I was approved. My visit to sign consents is 7/25. I'm just trying to focus on not gaining weight before that visit.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to peacequeen in Freaking Out......   
    You've made it this far and the sleeve is saving too many lives for them to close shop..try to relax your mind about that. As for the psych eval,,be honest but not too revealing. Try to keep everything on the positive. You're going to do so great!
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from StormWarning in Freaking Out......   
    I am so consumed by this weight loss surgery, I can't sleep. I had a dream and woke up with this anxious feeling that they are going to shut down camp on these WLS claiming that way too many people are having them done right before I could get mine.....I know, sounds crazy
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Looking Ahead in Freaking Out......   
    The week prior to my surgery, I only had 3 nights of sleep. I was like a zombie by the time of surgery day. You'[re having normal anxiety which means you have researched your surgery and know all the risks. Try to sleep during the day if you can or watch funny movies to get your mind off things before you go to bed. That was great advice for me from someone on here when I was going through it.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Lissa_S in Freaking Out......   
    I too understand what it's like. I have my first appointment coming up with the surgeon on July 25 and all going well, I should have a surgery date early in September (it seems to move more quickly here in Australia). Realistically, it's only 6 weeks away which sounds like a long time but I am sure it will go very fast!! Good luck with your surgery! I look forward to hearing of your many successes!
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    MrzSongbird reacted to StormWarning in Freaking Out......   
    I can relate to the sleepless anxious nights. The closer I get to the 6th the worse they get. Right after I decided this is what I wanted I didnt sleep well for weeks, Then things started slowing down and sleep was entering my life again. That was until I received my surgery date. Now there are times I lay away staring at the ceiling pondering all the great things going through my head. Other times when I am sleeping, i am constantly dreaming of the soon to be New Me.
    I wish you all the best in this journey, and I truly hope sleep will find you again.
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from StormWarning in Freaking Out......   
    I am so consumed by this weight loss surgery, I can't sleep. I had a dream and woke up with this anxious feeling that they are going to shut down camp on these WLS claiming that way too many people are having them done right before I could get mine.....I know, sounds crazy
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    MrzSongbird reacted to CAsleeve in How Is Everyone So Happy?   
    I haven't read the other responses, but....here is mine. I'd like to commend you on your honestly. My response back to you is also honest so don't be offended with what I say. I say it with complete love and respect and a little kick in the pants!
    I had a hard time with Vitamins also. Find what works for you. I found adult Gummy multi-vitamins at Target. They are like eating a gummy bear. I couldn't keep any other Vitamins down, but these I can and kinda enjoy them.
    It will get better. First of all, the power of positive thinking is POWERFUL! I mean really think and approach everything in a positive manner.
    Meditate, do some deep breathing. Find your inner strength. It is there! Everyone has it, you just have to bring it out and nurture it.
    Mix chocolate Protein powder with some chocolate soy milk or regular chocolate milk and add some banana or instant coffee or Peanut Butter. Put it in a blender and make a smoothy. What?, you don't like milk shakes or smoothies? If it takes making a shake or smoothy to get your Protein in, DO IT! Or mix vanilla Protein Powder with strawberries, bananas, chocolate, Peanut Butter, mangos, pineapple, whatever works for you. No excuses!
    You made the decision to get the surgery, then make the best of it, 'cause there is no going back! Your body will change, your tolerance and taste will change, evolve with your new stomach.
    Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have the power. So what if your family is eating and continues to eat after you are done...so freaking what!? ENJOY YOUR FAMILY/FRIENDS - you don't have to enjoy your family while feeding your face. Socialize and talk during this time rather than eating. Get out and take a walk. Life doesn't have to evolve around food. If you choose to be unhappy because you can't gorge yourself anymore...that is your choice. You had the surgery because you could not control your weight and continue on the path you were on. Well you now have the tool - the sleeve - to take control of your weight and your life. Don't let it be yet another excuse to bring you down.
    Eat food that is clean - don't eat sugar or white flour or processed foods. Eat a clean healthy plant based diet! It will make you feel awesome and it will give you strength. Processed food, sugar and white flour are things the body does not need at all.
    Watch these movies: Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead and Forks Over Knives. You will learn something!
    Snap out of it. Be happy! Make yourself be happy. If you can't be happy and you are clinically depressed GET HELP! Contact your doctor, see a clinician, see a psychiatrist/psycologist, get help for the depression. Whatever it is you need, search it out. Asking for help is a sign of intelligence and strength and is commendable.
    Get off your butt and exercise...get the endorphins pumping. FIND SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU JOYFUL - it becomes contagious.
    Pray
    Meditate
    Do Yoga
    Volunteer and help out others in need.
    Give of yourself.
    There are sooooo many options and good things you can do to contribute and help others. It will help you to feel good about yourself.
    Do something proactive and positive.
    One Love.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Pookeyism in Sex..   
    We were already pretty good (when I felt ok, etc) but now it has gone from a few days a week to every day and, well, er, more...lol
    The best difference is the way it feels to be able to get so much closer than before - no belly in the way...that sort of thing...
    ...hmmmm....
    ...running out of the office to grab hubby, lol...
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    MrzSongbird reacted to littlebits in African American Sleevers   
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from littlebits in African American Sleevers   
    Congrats ChiChi, wishing you a speedy recovery. Can't wait to join you guys!
    Littlebits glad to see you are doing well. Was it as bad or as good as you thought it'd be? All the best to you.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to note2bear in Thought I Could Trust My Husband!   
    Here's a man chiming in...
    I see a couple of issues here: 1. He didn't honor your request and betrayed your trust. He's your husband and should be your safe place, your confidante. 2. He stole your future moment of surprise and awe that we all are looking forward to as a benefit of our choice. Suggestion: have a conversation about who he wants to be for you. Is he your ally, forsaking all others, or is just the person you're married to at the moment? Hmmm.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Nikki613 in Thought I Could Trust My Husband!   
    I am a firm believer in either both people working really hard to fix their relationship or walking away. Sometimes all it takes is one person to start treating the other person better and being more loving....even if they dont deserve it now. Shower them with support and love and if they dont start coming around well, then its time to give them the ultimatum, therapy or divorce. I left my ex after doing everything I could for 3 years. My daughter is still devistated at times and it was rough on her. I decided it was better she didnt grow up seeing her parents miserable and fighting. I am married now and she will grow up seeing a healthy relationship.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to O.T.R. sleever in 16 Mos Out...disappointed   
    Yup, you hit the nail right on the head, it's all about calories. Whether you choose to reduce you're intake or increase the number you burn, that's the only choice
    As far as it being a failure, I for one don't view it that way, you've lost almost 90lbs!! And comparing your loss to your husbands is simply not fair to you.
    The simple fact is men& women are different. It may not be politically correct but it's true. Women typically carry much less muscle on them, & they tend to be smaller framed.
    So if your caloric intake is the same as you're husbands then it does make sense that his loss would be greater. His body burns more calories at rest simply because of the existence of more muscle tissue. Then when you both do the same exercise, he is engaging larger muscles therefore he is burning more calories.
    I know this really is not what most ladies want to hear, but I hope this helps you. You've come a long way, don't get discouraged now. It's time to adapt & overcome.
    YOU CAN DO IT
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from Pre-OpLoser619 in What Do You Want To Do When You Are Healthier?   
    I can't wait to get out and experience life, not wanting to stay inside all day. Can't wait not to hear, you have such a pretty face....... Can't wait to not bribe my kids to stay inside the house, so I don't feel like sudden death is upon me.
    Looking forward to riding roller coasters and never having to walk the walk of shame again. Going swimming with my family. Can't wait to not feel guilty for never wanting to go out with hubby because of my insecurities.
    Looking forward to cooking meals in lingerie for hubby. Can't wait to jog 16 laps with hubby and it actually be fun. I also want to join the law enforcement with my hubby and double our income. There are so many more.......
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Pre-OpLoser619 in Something I Never Expected......   
    I'm kinda the opposite. Part of the reason I've stayed heavy it's because I don't eat, well let me explain... I get up and have never been a Breakfast eater, so I won't eat, then lunch rolls around and again not really hungry so I don't eat, by the time dinner rolls around I'm starving so I would eat one huge meal a day then snack all night till bed. So it's been hard for me to adjust and forcing myself to eat all throughout the day, but it's definitely helped me to lose weight and not snack all night, plus it seems like I can make better food choices. It's all such a big adjustment for us all one way or another.
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from italianlady13 in Relationship Help   
    Remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and marriage takes unbelievably hard work. Marriage goes through seasons, but selfishness is not an option. My 10 year anniversary is in a few weeks and we began under some of the same circumstances with our first child. We have since the first child added 3 more. During the rough times remember what made you fall in love with her. Shower her with sweet nothings, no woman can resist that. She is carrying your seed which should make her beauty paramount above all the mood swings. I believe you guys will make it with some effort.
    P.s don't let the attention blow your head up
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from italianlady13 in Relationship Help   
    Remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and marriage takes unbelievably hard work. Marriage goes through seasons, but selfishness is not an option. My 10 year anniversary is in a few weeks and we began under some of the same circumstances with our first child. We have since the first child added 3 more. During the rough times remember what made you fall in love with her. Shower her with sweet nothings, no woman can resist that. She is carrying your seed which should make her beauty paramount above all the mood swings. I believe you guys will make it with some effort.
    P.s don't let the attention blow your head up
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Nate in Relationship Help   
    Not trying to upset the ladies here, but speaking from experience... Pregnant women are hormonal, emotional, and weird! You have to keep that in mind. Her body is going through basically the opposite changes that yours is right now. While you're getting thin and healthy she's faced with the issue of putting on baby weight for the next how many months. That alone could be enough of a reason for her to become detached and distant. Add in the fact that there are other women paying attention to you now and flirting and your wife is probably a wreck inside. And believe it or not, her being distant is probably her way of trying to cope with it and not wanting to rain on your good time of loosing so much weight and feeling good (Or she could be testing you and waiting for you to reach out to her, women tend to test us dense men sometimes). Talk to her. Make her feel good and loved. Ensure her that you're not going to stray and that you love her no matter what.
    Is potential poontang worth throwing away your wife and unborn child? Is it worth 18 years of child support? Is it worth only being able to see your child half the time if you're lucky? Are you willing to have your child grow up resenting you for not being there? These are all questions that you need to do some deep soul searching over. Don't just give things up and leave on a whim or because the ladies are looking your way now.
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    MrzSongbird got a reaction from prisytomboy in African American Sleevers & Hair Loss   
    I've had four c-sections and outside of the first one they were a breeze. The key for me was getting up walking. I've also had laparoscopic surgery to remove my gallbladder, now that surgery sat me down. I'm hoping the sleeve surgery is nothing like the latter. I'm so scared about the gas pain and having a bunch of little scars on my belly from the surgeries, hopefully they can sort of use the same ones. All the best to you all in your journeys.
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    MrzSongbird reacted to Jolie_KeMi in Freinds...how Many Of Us Have Them?   
    That was a good video. She hit some interesting points. Thanks for posting MrzSongbird.

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