mel2643

Had a Nut consult this week on what to eat after surgery. The meeting was great and I was surprised how much I had already learned here and she backed up a lot of it with why we eat a certain way....
So just wanted to say thanks for all the info and support!

Maybe insecure..
My husband wasnt happy about me getting the sleeve.. so I didn't insist.. now after 6months he told.me.." you never ask for nothing.. you want to get sleeve.? Ok.. give me a good reason."
I told him cause I want to be healthy and feel pretty.I want to look in the mirror and like myself. I want to get a chance to see my grandkids...
Next day.. he came home from work gave a kiss in my forehead took out his wallet and gave me a credit card. He said " I want you to be healthy so we can age together..
Talk to him listen to each other. Communication is the key.
I Also have a friend who lost 115 lbs left her husband and became a stripper.. messed up.. but reality..
My husband know I'm just dedicated to my kids..
Your husband should know the real you..
Good luck.!!

dithdith26
Your husband is probably concerned about a possible change in your marriage with your soon to be weight loss. it might intimidate him.
As for mel2463 said, her husband is "concerned" because there have been problems w/between other people, and the policeman who said "one of the officers who had a lapband said "there is a higher divorce rate when WLS is concerned" not sure where that statistic could have come from
Probably after WLS some spouces of might show their insecurities, or the person who had the surgery now feels strong enough to be on their own, or look for themselves for a change.......I don't know - but things do change, - we can't be afraid of change though
i had close to 100 lbs to lose. when i started my journey.
DH never had a problem after my WLS
he periodically refers to me as "skinny ass". He is pleased with my weight loss. Lots of thing have changed now for us for the better.
the first time he noticed a big difference in my weight loss was in bed
continue your plans for 8/7 - it will be the best decision you've ever made - don't let anyone talk you out of something you want to do
hope your hubby will realize sooner than later, how good this is for you and him - point out how much healthier and happier you will feel - which should be contagious onto him
good luck
kathy

dithdith26
remember this is big, not just for u but him as well. my husband has heard alot of stories about wives leaving after they loose the weight. and he asked me would i. of course i laughed at him and assured him IM not going anywhere. he says a lot of men feel that way. so ur husband can be afraid of u changing. r leaving. he could feel neglected since u r wrapped up in pending surgery. make sure u r paying attention to him. assure him he will not loose u. b4 , during, or after surgey. they don't express like us but they still feel like us. b blessed

just hang in there ..... I understand your flusrtration..... it seemed like every time i got close there was one more thing I had to do.... finally got there and now 3 months post op and 50 lbs later ... its definantly worth it.

Don't give up - why not pretend today is your surgery and try eating the post-op kinda diet till you are ready - imagine if you could lose 20 or 30 pounds before you even get to the operating table!

It is frustrating, but you can make it for the three additional months. Don't give up.

Have you brought the issue up to your company insurance person or HR rep ? This may have been an oversight. If not, then another 3 months compared to the rest of your life....

Hang in there! You'll be glad you did. You just have to figure out if you want enough to jump through the hoops. It's very frustrating, but in the end, I'm sure you'll be glad you stayed the course.

Please don't give up. This is just another 3 months to get your body prepared for the beautiful transformation that will be happening. It's worth an extra 3 month wait. Put your head up and keep going forward. yes, it is totally frustrating all the hoops the insurance company is making you jump through. I had to do the six months also, but took it one day at at time. Even up to the OR room, I couldn't believe it was actually going to happen. I woke up and it was reality. Keep on going, it will happen.

Hi SicChl
I am/was amongst the world's greatest snackers - actually we probably all were.
After WLS - i just stopped snacking - simple as that, well not exactly simple. Kindof like a chain smoker - who needed to quit - goes cold tuirkey.
Many many years ago my father went to his PHP - dr. told him if he wanted to see his kids grow up etc. he had to stop smoking immediately, thats all there is.
Thats how i feel about being morbidly obese. After all these years - i just have to stop! No ifs and or buts.
Of course if it were easy, none of us would be obese - i know i could lose the weight, but i never kept it off. I finally came to the realazation (msp) with PHP's help/iinsistance - i must lose the weight.

Thats how i feel about snacking/getting off track. We must survive.
Maybe think of this when you are reaching for that piece of candy.< /span>
Now of course conflict in terms - you can take that piece of whatever - just try and plan ahead for it.
The above might sound a little lame - but this is how i am doing this with the guidance of the sleeve.
Good luck to all us
kathy

Hi everyone , July 9th is my date ..... So excited for everyone here ... soon we will be on the losers bench as well .....

Justsleeveme23 , I also looked at the policy but where you write its on top of page 2 ( Medical management including evidence of active participation within the last 12 months in a weight-management program that is supervised either by a physician or a registered dietician for a minimum of three consecutive months. ) is talking about a weight management program ....
However the next bullet states the 6 months
A thorough multidisciplinary evaluation within the previous six months which includes ALL of the following:
 an evaluation by a bariatric surgeon recommending surgical treatment, including a description of the proposed procedure(s) and all of the associated current CPT codes
 a separate medical evaluation from a physician other than the requesting surgeon that includes both a recommendation for bariatric surgery as well as a medical clearance for surgery
 unequivocal clearance for bariatric surgery by a mental health provider
 a nutritional evaluation by a physician or registered dietician "