jen_1381

I noticed how you stayed neutral on posting the topic, and people got personal very fast. It's a touchy subject, but so is saying that "all men are the same". Don't take it personally Steve.

Sounds like a rough day. I'm sorry, sometimes it seems like those days just happen; everything piles up and crashes down all at once. I'm in SW Washington, and it's been raining like crazy all day! But, coming from the Oregon Coast, it takes more than a days rain to concern me. Hopefully tomorrow will bring something extra-good, to make up for the bad day today.

I totally see where the ladies are coming from. It's a slippery slope. To put a little bit different spin on it - I think that type of "relationship" can be functional for a while if BOTH people are looking for the same thing. Problem is, most of the time one person develops feelings and eventually gets hurt. Plus, if this person was in fact a friend, not just a sex buddy, the friendship would be damaged beyond repair. I think "Friends with Benefits" is a bad idea. I'm married, and have been for almost 9 years, so any type of relationship like that is a no-go. Before my husband though, I was put in the situation with a man who was my best friend at the time. Feelings were there, you could tell, but we had (and still have) such a good friendship that we focused on that and never got romantically involved. Neither one of us were looking for a serious relationship, we'd both just gotten out of them, but we valued our friendship enough to hold back.

Honestly? It's only been 6 days, don't sweat it. It can be super frustrating when you're used to seeing the scale go down every day, then it stops. And you're working really hard....and the scale isn't repsonding. This is really hard, but just wait it out. If you're doing everything right, your body will catch up. This coming from a girl who weighs herself every day, and has been on a plateau for over 2 months. I get the frustration and concern part.

I'm going to chime in on this. First, well said Missy. Second, I did the hcg diet. I lost 45 lbs in 12 weeks. I felt great. Then I stopped the low cal diet and went to just eating healthier, around 1100 cals a day. The weight all came back within three months. I opted for lap band bc these fad diets don't work. If its one thing I've learned since starting my WLS process that the key to good nutrition and weight loss is simple. Eat healthy. Exercise. Eating 500 calories a day will put you into starvation mode. HCG does not prevent your body from eating your muscle when you're starving. Unless you're getting pure injections from a doctor, the homeopathic drops are useless. It's the low cal diet that makes you lose weight. I've done the diet. It works temporarily. Why go through life changing lap band surgery just to fall back into a crash diet?? And as far as your surgeon doing the injections and allowing the HCG, I think that's crazy. But again, this is just my experience and opinion.

I was shocked - SHOCKED - when I met with my surgeon last time and he said that carbonation was perfectly fine but it may cause some discomfort. I was asking him about taking Airborne or Emergen-C for a cold I felt coming on, since it's fizzy I didn't want to risk anything. He said that he feels it's one of those "rules" that surgeons put out there because nothing carbonated is good for you, even diet soda isn't healthy and most times will lead to increased appetite for salt. I honestly put my fingers in my ears and said "lalalala - don't tell me this". If my brain knows something is off limits, I don't even crave it...I told him that a diet soda was a slippery slope for me, so I'll just keep believing that it can do damage.

Well I swore to myself I wouldn't step on the scale until Sunday but curiousity got the best of me, and I checked this morning. I'm down just a hair over 5 lbs! I was skeptical - eating so often makes me nervous - but it's working!

I have to say Missy, I've read the quote on your signature a thousand times - "I'm nothing special, just a fat girl desperate not to be fat anymore". I want to tell you - - you ARE special. You're so supportive, so honest, so caring...your family and friends (and us!!) are very lucky to have you around. Thank you so much for helping us all along.

My stomach is super talkative after a fill, for about 3-4 days after. I don't have the tossing and turning sensation though. It's just very noisy!!

When I went from 6 to 6.5 it made all the difference in the world. I was suddenly in the Green Zone. Just 1/2 of a cc can make tons of difference!

For those of you who are carb cycling - question for you: Today is my low carb day. I've taken in 27 carbs between breakfast, lunch, and my two snacks. I was hardly able to eat breakfast (my band is fussy in the morning, it likes a cup of coffee before food and that just doesn't happen when I have to eat within 30 minutes of waking). This whole afternoon I've felt shaky and weak. What I've eaten so far is: Breakfast - 1/2 cup of scrambled eggs with salsa. Snack - 1/3 cup of greek yogurt with 1/3 cup no sugar added diced peaches. Lunch - Weight Watchers grilled chicken patty with salsa, 1/3 cup cottage cheese, and the Green Giant steamed italian vegetables. Snack - 3 slices of low salt sliced honey ham with a Laughing Cow wedge. I'm full, I don't feel hungry and I don't feel like I need to eat something, but what's up with the shakiness? Is it just because of eating so high carb yesterday then low today? Has anyone else noticed any "side effects"? I've also been a tad grumpy (don't ask my husband, he'll say that's the understatement of the year!)

Applying Vitamin E oil, or "Bio Oil" to your scars will help soften them. Also, using Mederma will help fade them. My abdomen already looked like a road map between my appy, gall bladder, and hysterectomy...I just added the band scars to my collection! Figured I probably won't ever have that bikini body anyhow