Ana92212...thats the crux of the matter there. It is my belief that we call back into old habits no matter how long out we are from the surgery . Between reading about the "myth" of stretching, the "moral failure " of the individual to retain new eating behaviors so as to maintain the loss, the statistics docs post about followup, the shame of being overweight that we carried all our lives, the microbiota [SIBO] and supplements ....we really don't have any definitive data that helps us resolve the main issue of why we get to a point where only surgery saves us. I've been the whole route. I don't have answers. All I know is that it is NOT a moral failing that makes us fat and there is nothing virtuous about going for the surgery. But knowing this and believing it are two different animals. We get to try and that should be enough. Ultimately life happens. Good luck to all those who are still in the planning stages, the honeymoon years, the horrible ouch i gained, I will restart it , etc. That's all we can hope for: good luck.