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I use the weight that I was the first doctor visit I had to start my sleeve process. I saw the doc for the first time on March 30th, when I was 326. I can now say that as of Sunday (weigh in day), I am down 55 lbs.
I never weighed the day before or the day of surgery. I wish I had. I also wish I had taken measurements, but I didn't. Too late now. I'm happy saying I've lost 55!

Your first paragraph was on track, its your feeling and you own it. When I look at pictures when I was at my heaviest, the word disgust enters my mind. All the bad choices and using food to comfort my pain instead of confronting it. Disgust is the word I feel. When I look at others eat, I don't feel disgust towards others, but more at amazement. I always comment to my husband how amazed I used to eat that much and sometimes more (don't forget dessert!). I don't judge the people eating. They're paying for it, and not just the menu price. If you get physically ill watching others eat, don't watch. I used to get ill watching my husband eat because he ate so fast. I simply told him I'll have to look away when he eats, since its my problem and not his.
Your second paragraph seems to contradict the first. You don't keep it to yourself. This is a forum you chose to express your disgust, a very public place where people are very sensitive to the scrutiny of others. There is no "safe haven" on the internet. This forum is a very informative place and many people here have good and insightful advice to share. However, to justify your feelings of disgust in a forum (their safe haven as you call it) where people who feel they've been judged by the skinny ones all their lives is hypocritical. The looks you give to the people you're frowning on are probably more clear than anything you could have said to them.

To all the disgusted posters: You're so perfect, but you had to have 85% of your stomach removed, so you could stop over eating. They can't control it, just like you couldn't. Talk about hypocrisy.

I am disgusted by the people who have been sleeved and are rude/disrectful to or about their significant other. My DH isn't overweight so maybe it is harder to understand, but most of our spouses loved us at our heaviest. Mine told me he loved me no matter what I weighed. Told me I was beautiful no matter how down I was feeling about myself. Never EVER said a word about what I ate, how much, how often, nothing. Just loved me unconditionally, knowing how much I was already struggling, how much I was hating myself, he would never add to it with comments.
Who would I be, what kind of person to be mean to them, or rude about what they are eating after my surgery. when a few months ago I was right there with them, or still would be without my sleeve. They deserve the same they gave us, unconditional love.

Very well said tovanta! Not every person has access to this surgery. I have a good job with great insurance and it did not cover it. I thank God that I was able to come up with 23,000 for it. I'm sure there a lot of people that would love to have the surgery if they had insurance or other means to pay for it.
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I don't pay attention to what others are eating or doing...it's their lives Just as I wouldn't like them watching or commenting on what I'm eating or doing. If someone comments on how little I eat, I tell them that I had WLS... not afraid to tell the truth. Better than dying, I tell them! Then, if they want the details, I tell them about the surgery. The only thing that bothers me about food is the thought of GREASY or SUGARY foods. Makes my skin crawl... YUCK... but I'm not going to stop anyone from eating it around me. My family does eat better now, because I only cook what I can eat! LOL!!!

okay Im going to do it.....the rudeness of this topic overwhelms me.....so yes I guess I am being as judgemental as the majority of you on this postt...
Really.... escuse me.... if it were not for the sleeve...most of us would still be licking KFC grease off of our fingers...as at matter of fact...I have a feeling some of you are doing behind close doors...(wait that was accusatory so im sorry).
How dare we look at anyone and make judgement, feel ill or what ever....damn did you not wear those same moccasins.....
all i can say is simply this....stand in the mirror....oh skinny one....point at the figure in the mirror....then notice those 3 fingers pointing right back at you....
God forbid someone talks about the skin that will sag around our bellies....or the thinning of our hair that may take place....
I found that those who frown upon others are still quite miserable themselves.....
Wait a minute is this how we Celebrate the few pounds already lost.....
whew... now I can stop judging yalll (LOL)

But in a way, wasn't this all of us, until we decided to have surgery?

As a "pre op person" I have no doubt that I will notice the quantity of food people eat after my surgery. I will pray that I feel pity or empathy for them, and not disgust.

I, as well as most of us here know exactly how it feels to be discrimiated against or to be treated less than human because of our weight. It is one of the most hurtful and humiliating things I have ever experienced and I'll be damned if I will EVER do it to anyone else, whether I'm skinny or not. We, as former,or soon to be former fatties, should be even MORE sensitive to those suffering from the same food addictions we suffer from instead of feeling superior to them and judging them for it. Once an addict, always an addict, no matter the "drug" of choice. We are fortunate (or soon will be) to have a great tool to keep us from indulging in our addiction to food.

I haven't had surgery yet, my skin crawls hearing some of these statements. Really hurtful to think people I am around during meals could be feeling all this animosity towards me while I consume food in larger than needed amounts Especially people who use to do the exact same thing... I would hope to have some empathy after my surgery for others in my current position. If you can relocate that inner fat person for a moment and imagine reading utter disgust on the faces of others looking at you (its obvious, we have all experienced the looks) and remember how you felt as that person, maybe this will help. <3

It's weird how people who maybe had fingers pointing towards them in the past, now do the pointing. It might be nice to TRY to be fair and understand what these people that overeat are going through. We've all "been there, done that" and at times we've had out of control eating and/or relentless unsatiable hunger. It's one thing to see them overeating and reflect back on yourself, not see yourself in a positive light in the past and glad you had a tool to help you not be like that any longer. But we've been there, we know how overaters feel and of all people..... we should understand and see things a little how they see them.
I'll see someone like that and want to tell them (without offending them or them thinking I'm calling them fat) that there are possible tools for them out there as well and tell them how happy I am with mine. But I've rarely done that due to not knowing how they would take it. I would like to help them somehow instead of putting them down or judging them.

I totally totally totally, 1000 times over, agree with you. And we are lucky that we know when to limit ourselves and to stay balanced. At first I didn't understand why some people go so hardcore and cut out some things all together. After reading I see it is the best decision for them to stay away from temptation. Yet, we are lucky to where we can keep a balanced perspective and eating habits. I wish you only the best of luck!!!!

I met the love of my life post sleeve (2-3 months post-op, 50 pounds down) Definately made a big difference in my confidence. I could be myself. I think you will find dating is much easier post sleeve-- confidence makes a big difference!

Well I am married, however I did go out with my girlfriends and I practically had to fight the guys off. I did tell my hubby he was gonna have to buy me a bigger diamond ring to scare off potential suitors. The sex is a lot better. My legs can bend like I never thought, and it doesn't hurt when I we go out for dinner dates it's great, I feel so sexy and confidant, I love getting all dressed. I feel like I'm slowly but surely becoming eye candy...what maybe one day I'll be that trophy wife that I always knew I could be.

I was tested for leaks before they finished the surgery. Just seems to make so much more sense.

I'm still pre-surgery, but I'm choosing VSG over the Gastric Bypass. GB concerns me because of the malabsorption of vitamins/nutrients. While there are definitely ways to manage it and be healthy, I'd still be afraid of becoming chronically deficient or anemic despite those efforts. Also, I learned that there is a lifetime possiblity of having obstructions or twisting of the small intestine because of the rerouting. (While it's not a super high probability, it's still there.) One more thing I didn't like was that if doctors ever need to do scans or ultrasounds, it is harder for them to actually 'see' what's going on in your GI tract because of the rerouting and the new criss-crossed shape of the intestines. As you can begin to tell - I'm a bit of a worrier! hehe. But to me, the sleeve is a happy medium between the Band & GB, so I'm going to go with it. Either way, you gotta figure that some surgery is better than no surgery, right? Good luck with whatever path you choose!

Sleeved march 1,2012
Down 80lbs
Woot woot!

You look great! Thanks for posting pics. It's a great inspiration!

Wow.... You look great.

Congratulations on your loss! You look fabulous!

awesome!!!!!