kristallynn13

I too fell off the wagon and making a commitment to myself to turn this around. Good luck to you!

I too fell off the wagon and making a commitment to myself to turn this around. Good luck to you!

Hi, I can feel your pain about falling off the wagon. I hit 100 pounds lost about 14 months post op. now at 21 months post op I am only about 70 down. I have not been on this board in a loooong time. I had also stopped logging my food and my exercise went way down because of an injury.
I'm making today the first day of my new journey. Already logged Breakfast, and came on here to some much needed support. Seems like we are in a similar place. We know what worked the first time around...we just need to get back to that place.
I wish I had more advice for you, good luck!

Working on the hot tea. I'm thinking it is helping calm it down.
Yeah the medical field here really does suck for certain things... Heart attack, stroke, cancer.... They are good.... Weight loss, psych, and general health care....SUCKS. It's a shame too.
I was really relieved I didn't have an erosion when they did the EGD. But another part of me says get this damn thing out of me. I get frustrated when this happens and everyone's response is "what do you expect you weren't made to have that thing"
OMG. I JUST HAD THE BIGGEST BELCH OF MY LIFE....
thank you for being up chatting. Kept my mid busy.

Hello and welcome...it's tough when that emotional eating factor starts sneaking up on you. I find that keeping busy is super important even if that means talking on the phone with friends or cleaning up around the house. Also, don't lose sight of your accomplishments so far... 13 pounds is not easy to lose!

(((Hugs))) to you! I'll say this I know where you're coming from. I am a licensed therapist/clinician who has lap band and I gained some weight back BUT I've done a complete 180 and lost more weight than when I started and have changed my body.
Please inbox me and we can chat for support. I'm coming to you not as a therapist but fellow lap bander.
For many of us emotional eating is difficult and as stated above, doesn't matter which WLS you can trick it and eat past it. Have to work on those broken places in your heart and mind. I was going through some personal and weight stresses and began eatin ice cream and junk food. I had to stop, because I was killing myself all over again.
This thing is a lifelong journey. The falling off its te problem, what's important is that you get back up again!! Deal with the emotional eating and what's eating you first.

Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear. I've been there. Unfortunately Zoloft makes me nauseated so that doesn't work for me. I've tried others but I didn't like the side effects either. Not that depression is better but nauseated, but that was my deciding factor. Yeah talk to pharmacist/doctors. Hopefully you can crush it and it'll go down. Do you drink plenty of Water with your medicine? I know some docs limit how much water you can drink with meds but mine doesn't. Not telling you to bypass your doctors rules but um, it's an option.
I had those same similar thoughts when I got divorced. It sucks. It absolutely sucks. Some people are able to move on with life with a little bit of sadness and can pick themselves back up. It took me a LONG time to get better. Hope mentally you get there soon. It is definitely easier said than done but I hope you feel better soon and get over this current mountain of an obstacle. Your weight will get there. Just need to find the right channel in your brain to switch on as well as switching off the bad channel. That's definitely difficult. You'll get there someday.
(Hugs)

Congrats Prettythick1 for your success!

Congrats Prettythick1 for your success!

My husband never stopped 'chasing me around the kitchen table,' sex has never been lacking. That said, he tells me much more often now that I am 'hot' and chases me a bit more. At first it was nice. Then it pissed me off. I thought, 'he is being SO much nicer to me now that I am losing weight.' I wondered was it purely physical with him behaving this way; b/c men ARE physical creatures. But I have also figured out his reaction to me has changed for more than just THAT reason. I am taking better care of myself; my appearance, clothes, make up, jewelery..MY attitude has changed, ie I am happier and putting off a more positive vibe therefore triggering his overtures. And lastly, I believe he is so happy and relieved that I am healthier (diabetes meds reduced from 2 oral meds and 6-7 shots a day to 1 oral med and 1 shot a day) that in general his mood is lighter and more playful concerning me. As we all know, or figure out, losing this much weight, is NOT just physical it is a mind game as well.

Glad to hear that I seem to be in the minority with the UN-fill problems. And don't get me wrong, I'm still a fan of the band. I had it for 10 great years with great success!! I'm just sharing my experience as is everyone.
And for those of you who seem to know where or how I went wrong... How I didn't do the right thing or eat the right amount or types of food... Well, I caution YOU especially!!!
DON'T PASS JUDGEMENT BASED ON INADEQUATE INFORMATION!! We are all different as was said. Anyone ever pass JUDGEMENT against you??
Ever heard THESE words before:
- "YOU DON'T NEED THE LAPBAND!! YOU'RE JUST LAZY AND DON'T WANT TO EXERCISE OR EAT RIGHT!!!" -
If you say you never heard those words then you're LYING!! It's hard for people who don't have a weight problem to understand what it's like for those of us who do, RIGHT???
SOOO... Step down off of your HIGH-HORSE and remember where you started!!
Cause we all started at the same place... A place filled with the best of hopes and intentions.

Kris... i look at your before and after and think that you have done an amazing job. I'm go to tell you what i saw in your photo gallery.... Older pictures of you, you looked sad and underlay miserable. I can now see why this A$$ hole latched on too you. In the Healthier pictures... you look so happy and confident... stay this way...
Sojourne has given you great advice. Sounds to me like you are feeling some guilt about losing weight. Guilt about the ex-cheating-bastard.... So what if he like big girls. He probably can't handle the new, beautiful, healthy, confident and strong woman you have become. He likes big girls because we have low self esteem and self worth and are easily controlled. This is why he moved on from you, you were in control you. But now You are letting him control you even though you are not with him anymore by sabotaging your weight loss...
STOPPPP letting this happen...
Please go see someone and don't give up and don't let others determine your self worth. You will find someone that will love the person you are and not care about your size.. big or small.

When I first started to think about getting the band, I wasn't emotionally ready. I have a family history of depression and anxiety issues. And through a series of losses, I was severely depressed and anxiety ridden. It would take years for me to come to the point that wls was an option for me. I had to address the many losses and the trauma that have been a part of my life. For me, the way to do that was through therapy and medication. No, therapy is not for every one. And, it takes a serious commitment to making things better. But on the other hand, no amount of weight loss is a cure for a hurt heart.

Hi All,
I've had an account here for a while, but haven't ever really been active. I was banded in June of '08 and had a serious rollercoaster ride with my band, almost from the start. About six months after surgery, I started having problems finding the proverbial "sweet spot." I either had too little restriction and wouldn't lose weight, or I had too much, and would start upon a horrible cycle of sliming, throwing up, and eventually being so swollen that I couldn't eat or drink. I had difficulty eating meat, and most fruits and vegetables. salad was a total no-go. This was often the case even when I didn't seem to be too tight and had no problem eating other foods. I couldn't eat carrot sticks or chicken, but had no problem scarfing down ice cream or a bag of cheetos. In fact, at one point that's *all* I could get down, and I would eat them just to get SOMETHING in my system and get my blood sugar off the floor. (Oops... yeah, I'll own that I made some bad eating choices!)
I even had trouble sleeping. After three years, I'd lost almost 50 lbs, but I was so miserable that I couldn't take it anymore. My band was too tight, I had constant heartburn, and I could barely get liquids down. I didn't want to give up (especially after financing my surgery out of pocket.) but I just couldn't do it any longer. By the time I was unfilled, I couldn't get down broth, much less any of my daily medications. (Which in my case is BAD.) I had my band completely unfilled, and haven't been back to the clinic since. Every once in a while when I eat the wrong thing or eat too fast, I'll get a stab to the chest and remember that the old girl is still in there, but otherwise it's been pre-surgery eating as usual, with both good and bad choices, and everything in between.
Now, a year and a half of yo-yo-ing later, I've regained most of the weight I'd lost, and I've decided to try it again. I'm hoping for a better result, but I'm afraid I'll end up facing the same issues. I feel like I have to completely re-acquaint myself with proper band eating, and after my history I really don't know what to expect. I'm nervous and uncertain of what's ahead.
Has anybody else been in the same boat?

Friends come in leaves, branches and roots. Leaves blow away there for a season. Branches can b there for years it takes a lot to break them, but they do brake. Roots are there and will be there a lifetime. Only you know what kind of friend this is to you. It the season was up keep stepping and let it go, but if you know in your heart she is more than that apologize to salvage the friendship. TRUE friends are hard to come by. Good luck

Don't give up. I have wanted to have mine removed at times too, but only if absolutely necessary, I have nightmares about having surgery, I sure won't have it unless necessary. Are you exercising? I know it's hard. I am still struggling. I had my band 3/29/06 and still have 35 lbs to lose. I hope you are feeling better and reconsidering. I can't stick to a diet for more than 2 1/2 days then I fall off the wagon and feel like giving up.

i was banded in sep of 2011. I have to say im in the same boat. i went from 209 down to 183 and stayed there for a while. i started gaining again over the last 4 months and am now back up to 193. i cant go any tighter on my band then i already am. i tried, but Water wouldnt even go down. im starting to feel like i should of went with the bypass instead of the band. sucks even worse that i paid cash for the whole thing. the whole point of this surgery was so i dont have to count calories. anyone can lose massive amounts of weight counting calories, but its such a hassle. plus working 10 to 12 hours 5 to 6 days a week doesnt help.
im making bad food choices. bottom line. the band doesnt exactly help you make good food choices. i never had a sweet tooth until after the surgery. i think i might go to the doctor and have the band emptied. the only good thing about my band is that i havent eaten bread in almost a year. Thats probably where all the weight loss came in. But i can do that on my own without the band. other then that, my diet has been super unhealthy. i never feel full. just uncomfortable and wanting to throw up to get rid of the feeling. maybe i have the band too tight.
im so mad i went with the band instead of the bypass.
end rant.

Second hand stores are a great resource for interim clothing.I've bought nearly new and new brand name items for a pittance, like Cruel Girl jeans for $3 and a Coldwater Creek skirt for $2. You have to check regularly to get the best buys, but that's part of the fun. I used to hate shopping but if I miss my weekly round of my favorite stores I feel deprived.

gonna be tough---dont hate me....but was in your shoes not long ago:
ok. you messed up. so what....you gained back what you lost. ok. so what...
shall i take your head now or later??
what is done is done. we cannot go back in time to what was. what you have is today. right now.
you also acknowledge drinking soda, eating/binging and all the things you know is what made you
and i gain weight in the first place. SO STOP IT-- RIGHT NOW.
just because you can overeat, and eat junk food and eat around the band
does not mean you should. did you go through all the pre ops and post ops and liquid diets just to say WTheck?? no i dont think so.
right now is a new day. a new start.
3 meals a day and a couple healthy Snacks.
get rid of the junk (high fat/salty/processed foods).
get rid of the sodas.
buy fresh fruit/veggies and lean Protein.
NO EXCUSES by saying i got kids and they need treats.....
you know what to do to lose weight
you also know what to do to gain weight.
you either make up your mind to do something about it or you stay where you are.
when is the last time you seen your surgeon/lap band doctor?
if you want help, this forum saved me and still saves me to this day. i am a newbie bander.
but i know if i want to succeed, i have to do it.
you can do this. Yes you can. dont say you cant or its too hard.
no more excuses. just get on with it. life is too short to ponder what was.
if you need me to email you/text/call you every hour, i will.
i am here for you.
but please know you have to be there for yourself first.
you are in my thoughts.

The gas and the pain are probably normal. It takes the body awhile to get ride of the built up gas from anesthesia. This can cause alot of pain in weird areas you wouldnt expect. As far as burping and passing gas, get used to it. It will be a way of life for you now. It can be quite comical at times, but embarassing at times as well. Continue using the gas pills, they will help some but not totally alleviate the gas. It will also get better with time. It is normal to not be losing weight right now, even gaining is ok. Your body takes time to get back to normal after surgery. It will probably take a good 3-4 weeks before you start losing weight. Sounds to me like you are doing exactly what you should be doing. Good luck.

Hi everyone my name is Sharmon I was banded sept 2008 and in an auto collision Dec2008 that caused 4 anular tears at 4 levels. At that time I had already lost 30 lbs then came the physical pain and depression I had to deal with. I spet 2 1/2 years just making it day to day drinking protien 26g 2xs per day and 3 meals (not very much) my activity level was very limited due to the pain so I did what I could slowly. 14 mos ago I went and had a fill. I believe I have a 10 cc band and a 7cc fill but it was and is tight still. I started walking through the pain upwards of 2 turtle miles drinking Water water water Protien shakes Optimum 26g per scoop. Up to 3 scoops per day and 3 small protien with protien
N some veggies. I started at 315 lbs I'm 5 11 the last I weighed was 202 lbs. it is still a journey but well worth it. The difficult part for me is having daily back pain and excersize but I just still do my turtle miles and what I can do around my home. I never thought I could get this weight off Now I can get up and put on anything clothing that I own and it fits. Sometimes they are too big. . The band is the hardest but best thing I ever did for myself. Would I do it again? Somedays I say no because I'm an emotional eater but after fighting myself and winnin I say YES I WOULD DO IT AGAIN. So hang in there people. You will see progress!

My 6th month is March 27, 2012. It has been a long, hard journey, but well worth the effort! I have lost a total of 122 pounds pre and post surgery and looking to lose about 35 more! Yeah us!!

My 6th month is March 27, 2012. It has been a long, hard journey, but well worth the effort! I have lost a total of 122 pounds pre and post surgery and looking to lose about 35 more! Yeah us!!

Surgery date Sept.12th,2011......Its great I am at my sixth month anniversary and I am down almost 100lbs (pre and post) surgery. I feel wonderful, more active (just brought myself a bike) This is the best thing I have ever done for myself.

I am having some fairly serious anxiety with regard to other people mentioning my weight loss. From my highest weight, I am nearly 100 pounds down. But although I feel I can share that with YOU people, I don't like sharing that information with the general population.
I don't mind telling my mom, my husband, my BFF how much weight I've lost, but I don't like telling colleagues, my BFF's parents, my cousins, neighbors, etc. And they KEEP asking.
I've lost/gained 50-80 pounds quite a few times, and when people start talking to me about my weight loss, I start to get uncomfortable with the conversation, and I generally start gaining weight again..... which then stops all the conversation. But now, it's different. It's not going to happen, so I need to figure out how to know in my heart (like I know in my head) that I am not responsible to other people for my weight... I am only responsible to myself. I guess that was part of the problem, was that when I said "I've lost 60 pounds" it made me feel accountable to who I was telling that number to, and I couldn't handle the pressure.
Recently, though, I feel like I've been weighed/measured/evaluated when people ask me how much weight I've lost. I don't like being represented by a number, but it's the question that I get the most, and I'm having a heck of a time trying to figure out how to answer it.
When I do answer "I've lost 60 pounds" the next question is "How much more do you want to lose?" It keeps going around and around, and by the time that I can rip myself from the conversation, I just want to dive into a vat of ice cream.
So my question is this..... does answering the question like this come off as a lie? :
I honestly don't know how much I've lost. I used to be a slave to the scale, and in the end, it was always my demise, and I'd gain back all the weight I've lost. So now, I'm just trying to be healthy, and I'll know once I get to where I'm healthiest what my weight is.
Or do I just say something like "I really don't like to talk about numbers"
I honestly never thought that one of the biggest struggles I'd have during this journey is with answering questions that I think are prying.
I might be a little sensitive to it as well.... being a mother of triplets, the questions/comments when they were babies were incredible! I can't tell you how many times a complete stranger would walk up to me and say "wow... triplets! If it were me, I'd kill myself".
Thanks for letting me vent!