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What's your goal weight? My surgeon didn't give me one, though maybe we will talk about it at our appointment next week. I just picked something, though I'm not sure I want to be that weight if I don't have curves and an apple bottom.

This video was what I needed to see yesterday. I have been struggling with some emotional drama with my SO and reverted to my old bad habits -- eating trash to deal with my feelings even though I felt like trash afterward. This was just Thursday and Friday so I didn't get all the way off course but he's right. I have to change my relationship with food AND with others. Have to.
Also, I realized I was self-sabotaging. I have been fat for so long (see first diet at 5) I'm not sure I believe I deserve to be a healthy weight. I talk a good game but deep down I have doubts. I need to work on showing myself the same grace I would show to a friend who was going through this process.
I will discuss with my therapist and I appreciate all the information and support here.

Because some people need to make others feel bad because they are miserable.
ALSO we have made weight and weightloss some moral thing where if you just have the willpower you can lose the weight, WHY WON'T YOU STOP EATING ALREADY?!!! despite tons of science and research stating that it isn't that simple for most people to lose weight and KEEP IT OFF.
Stop discussing your plans with that person or anyone else who is anything less than supportive and respectful.

Because some people need to make others feel bad because they are miserable.
ALSO we have made weight and weightloss some moral thing where if you just have the willpower you can lose the weight, WHY WON'T YOU STOP EATING ALREADY?!!! despite tons of science and research stating that it isn't that simple for most people to lose weight and KEEP IT OFF.
Stop discussing your plans with that person or anyone else who is anything less than supportive and respectful.

Wear a bikini. Even when I had a bikini body I was too shy. When I get back there this time I AM WEARING THE DANGGONE BIKINI!!
Get back into all of my high heel shoes.
Wear slutty dresses
Sky dive. I promised my mom we would (she really wanted to, I was scared!) and she passed away three months later, and I want to do it in her honor.
Get a breast lift, Tummy Tuck and butt contouring
One thing I am glad that's over is getting up and having all these aches and pains in my legs and feet because I was carrying too much weight.
My left ankle isn't on perm swole status anymore AND I have ankles again, not cankles!

Wear a bikini. Even when I had a bikini body I was too shy. When I get back there this time I AM WEARING THE DANGGONE BIKINI!!
Get back into all of my high heel shoes.
Wear slutty dresses
Sky dive. I promised my mom we would (she really wanted to, I was scared!) and she passed away three months later, and I want to do it in her honor.
Get a breast lift, Tummy Tuck and butt contouring
One thing I am glad that's over is getting up and having all these aches and pains in my legs and feet because I was carrying too much weight.
My left ankle isn't on perm swole status anymore AND I have ankles again, not cankles!

OMG! After years of big calves I finally found boots that fit them last year. How about now that I have lost weight they are all floppy and too big now? DOH!

Love. This. I am type 1, first diet at 5.

This video was what I needed to see yesterday. I have been struggling with some emotional drama with my SO and reverted to my old bad habits -- eating trash to deal with my feelings even though I felt like trash afterward. This was just Thursday and Friday so I didn't get all the way off course but he's right. I have to change my relationship with food AND with others. Have to.
Also, I realized I was self-sabotaging. I have been fat for so long (see first diet at 5) I'm not sure I believe I deserve to be a healthy weight. I talk a good game but deep down I have doubts. I need to work on showing myself the same grace I would show to a friend who was going through this process.
I will discuss with my therapist and I appreciate all the information and support here.

Oh Lort! I hear ya! Luckily for Mr. F. I filled up the freezer with leftovers that I made for him thinking, "Oh I will warm that up for him after the operation." LOL, but it was such an easy thing that I ended up cooking afterward! And now that it's really hit that I'm forever changed, I have to feed him a freezer full of food. LOL. I do hope we are able to negotiate a new "healthy" normal. You know? I believe our non-gaining future depends on it.
LOL. Like we just got back in and it's time for dinner, but DH and I used to have wine or cocktails and an little appetizer in the old days. But for me, it's either dinner or appetizer and no drinks. And I'm so close to breaking into onderland that I don't want to indulge and do a modified Saturday date night. So I made him an app and a glass of wine and told him that I had to go in the other room until he was through cuz I was feeling a little put-upon and sad-sack. So here I am, getting a psychological boost from the boards while he eats and drinks!
Luckily, he understands and asked if he should not eat/drink. I told him, I was the one who had the surgery not him. And it's up to me to make good choices. So I have and did.

We all deserve to be in the normal bracket, worked for it, planned for it, even slightly rearranged our bodies to achieve it. Normal -yes, Average-no, average is as close to the bottom as the top. We will not settle for being bottom feeders, we are and will,be slim, trim and sleek! Power to Us All! [emoji106]
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((hugs)) I share some similar feelings about having doubts and wondering if I either deserve to be normal weight or if I can actually make a weight loss goal that I set. Good that you have a therapist to work through this with!!

This video was what I needed to see yesterday. I have been struggling with some emotional drama with my SO and reverted to my old bad habits -- eating trash to deal with my feelings even though I felt like trash afterward. This was just Thursday and Friday so I didn't get all the way off course but he's right. I have to change my relationship with food AND with others. Have to.
Also, I realized I was self-sabotaging. I have been fat for so long (see first diet at 5) I'm not sure I believe I deserve to be a healthy weight. I talk a good game but deep down I have doubts. I need to work on showing myself the same grace I would show to a friend who was going through this process.
I will discuss with my therapist and I appreciate all the information and support here.

Girl you betta slay! Any "secrets" to your success that you can share with those of us still in the beginning of our journey?

If you're not getting 800 cals your body may be in survival mode. Just a thought but your doctors will likely be able to sort it out. Good luck.

Your numbers are a lot like mine. I'm losing slowly but steadily. Don't worry about it, you will be fine

Well maybe they should have thought, hm, perhaps this is an opportunity for us to expand our reach and attract an audience (and their dollars!) that really wants high-end well-tailored attractive fashionable clothes, rather than turning their noses up at you.

I never bothered to ask, I was worried about revision rate, mortality statistics, etc. But my surgeon was super good and I have had no complications so far.

Nausea is tricky to predict but easily controlled with meds

No, and I don’t need to know. My surgeon went to med school, not me.

Girl you betta slay! Any "secrets" to your success that you can share with those of us still in the beginning of our journey?

First, congratulations on your weight loss!! That’s fantastic! Surgery is a pretty scary thing. Especially when you’re choosing it voluntarily. But there’s a reason you’re choosing surgery. Think about those reasons over and over again. Think about not doing the surgery and what your life will be like 10 years from now. You are strong. And I’m willing to bet you’ve made it through some pretty hard times in your life. This surgery will be easier. I’m excited for you. You’re going to do great. And I can’t wait to hear about your further weight loss by the 4th of July.

Flintstones w/iron chewables

I tend to agree with you about the use of correct grammar, but in looking thru the posts, topics, and general conversation around here I would say that proper spelling is the least of our concerns. Our state of mental health and reasoning seems to be a much larger problem.

Nothing is wrong with good grammar it's never a waist of time to point these things out.

Mine to add:
Late husband : yada yada mute point
Me: the word is moot, if it were mute you would have shut up by now!
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