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I believe I was 3 months post-op at a 4th July party and I had a couple of sips of wine and took a sip of cognac! I could had my liquor prior to surgery but not anymore! My eyes got very low very quickly! LOL It depends on the person they don't recommend it but....

Very happy to hear that you are kicking the door down and pushing through to conquer fears and assasinating ALL negativity good for you! Very impowering story! I wish you much success in your WL journey!
As far as heels go - rocked them at my heaviest and still continue to rock them I'm 5'10 and I wear 5-6inch heels ALL the time, the only difference now is that I don't feel any pain in my knees! LOL My husband is 5'11 and does have a problem with me where my heels he loves it so I hope that you find that special someone that will LOVE YOU for who you are and what you like to ROCK on your feet!
Blessings Sweetie!

You sound so much better! I'm glad to hear that you are noticing the changing in your body by not getting on the scale! Wonderful!!!

Next time could you take a picture from the back of the room? :-P

I'm definitely not the standard on here or the person you should follow when it comes to eating the right amount of calories, protein or carbs so i'm not at ALL recommending you do what I did, it just worked for me. I did not calorie count at all or count my protein or carb in take. I got these little bowls and plates that I ate out of and that how I ate. I used yum yum dishes that helped me with my portion sizes. I still can not eat or drink alot but these portions bowls are what I used to eat out of and I was full.
http://yumyumdish.com/
My water intake I keep a bottle with me most of the time and sipped on through out the day during my first few months though it was hard for me to get enough water in me so my NP suggested that I eat ice chips or make crystal light popsicles so that's what I did.
Again by NO means am I advocating that my way is the way to do this - I just learned to listen to my body during my journey. I knew to be successful I needed to control my eating but I was never good at counting calories before but I knew I couldn't eat as much anymore so I took advance of that and just used small portion controlled dishes and I still use them. I know that I have to exercise so I got into the gym but before the gym I just walked in my neighborhood I knew at this point anything I did now would be positive and I would see the result now because of the surgery and it worked for me.

What you're experiencing is a common topic here on VST I read it alot. I'm glad that you have moved on and understand the logical as well as the emotional side of this. I think for this very same reason is why I chose not to weigh myself I didn't buy a scale and would only get my weight from my monthly check in at the WL Center and meeting with my NP and Surgeon, because I had enough stress and I didn't want that to be another one.
I didn't weigh myself for the first 12 months (I know some may think i'm insane) but that was my choice - not even when I went to the gym even though I was tempted too. I honestly just enjoyed the journey and went off how my clothes started fitting me - looser and looser, I also listen to all the people around me noticing the difference and giving me compliments. I'm not suggestion that anyone do the same this is just what I did and it helped me I may have stalled here or there but I never knew it because I was "scale free" for the first year!
I'm now 21 months post op and I currently have been maintaining my weight which i'm currently at for 5 months now but I do weigh myself weekly sometimes daily and take my measurements monthly but as I stated i'm in my "maintaining my weight" stage of my journey.
Good luck to you on this WL journey and I wish you much success!

i am almost six months out from my surgery date. i never weigh myself at home. i only weigh in at my monthly doctor appointments. i would be so stressed otherwise. i may be experiencing a three week stall right now but i do not know it.

I am so glad I read your blog! My surgery is coming up in less than two weeks! 2/28/13. There is so much to learn and thanks for the advise of picture taking and measurements. Yuk btw. But I'm going to measure next week end so I can be encouraged during stalls. One day at a time and just know, I am glad your here!

Everyone is different and may go through different experiences so no answer to this question is consider "law". I wasn't really hungry when I was post op I had trouble staying hydrated I couldn't get enough water, liquids drinking the protein shake I would take a couple of sips and that was it.
You are definitely not alone and that's what this site is for to ask questions, be encouraged and encourge others with your knowledge or experiences.

I catch it to from ppl.thy always say wen thy loose weight thy wil do it the rite..so wat their saying is I did it the wrong way and it always be overweight ppl who make silly comments and sum men r hatters too. I was surprised to c that like wen ppl say u don't need to loose no more..u just need to tone up..wat the hell that mean or een thy say u gud but only ur stomach is the problem now and thy be the fattest ones..ppl need yo stop hatein and learn to except change as thy c it.

oh my goodness! i'm so sorry!
and just in case you still need some back-up... YOU DID NOT CHEAT!!! you took your health and life into your own hands and took control... made a positive change and there was nothing easy about it!
i also get this response a lot! from my sisters & mom actually! even this morning my mom told me I finally looked like I had the baby! (the baby is actually 15 months but i never lost a pound until i started my pre-op diet...)
so you know what i have to say about these little smart a$$e$...
HATER HATER HATERS!!! just HATING HATING HATING!!!
hate away... i tell them!
i'm just gonna keep going to the next bigger, better, brighter thing!
and i REFUSE to eat over it!
on those days, when folks are hatin' on me, i make sure to eat super clean and slow... give them something to really hate on me about! my new healthy self!

Let me interpretate that for ya~ You cheated really means.........
I hate you, for the fact that you took a stance on your life and made that change that I sooooo desperatly Need! However since i'm soooo Pridefilled I will not allow myself to ask for assistance instead I thrive off attempting to making others such as yourself feel horrible about the choices I wish I would make for myself!!!! I deep down would LOVE to be in your shoes and have the confidence you have but I don't!
That's what she REALLY means when she says that~
T~

I agree with tmorgan - this is no easy way out. I struggle with it a lot - it's not easy hardly being able to eat anything. My husband also constantly asks me how I do it and how he could never do it. He tells me how strong I am and how proud he is of me. I too tried every diet in the book and it didn't work for me. This did. I have also had friends tell me that I'm being an a*****e telling people I had this surgery because I was able to afford to pay for it myself. How she thought I was bragging about it. Bragging about trying to get healthy? She, of course, doesn't have a weight problem.
fortunately my family is very supportive - and so are my coworkers.

WHAT???? This pissed me off. This surgery was harder than anything I've ever done. There is no way it's cheating. I will say it took my husband about a week or two to finally see how much went into this surgery and how much I had to concentrate on and do. He randomly looked at me one day and said, "I don't know how you manage to do this everyday and the rest of your life. You are the strongest person I know and if anyone ever says you took the easy way out I will tell them to come and live with us for three days to see there is NOTHING easy about what you do."
With that being said, please know that many people don't know how to handle having someone loose that much weight. They feel the need to put you down to make themselves feel better. What I say is SCREW THEM!!!!!!! They can think whatever they want....you know the truth!!!!
Best of luck to you on you journey. Don't allow negative people to get to you and remember, this was not EASY or a CHEAT and as long as you are happy with who you are then who cares what anyone thinks about you weight loss.

OK--so we are "cheaters" and we "take the easy way out." Fine with me. Why is that a bad thing? I have a hard time believing that ANYONE would opt for the "hard way out" when there is and "easy way out."
"Excuse me, ma'am....the building is on fire. You have 2 options. You can walk through this door here and go outside where it is safe or you can go up those 5 flights of stairs right there that are thick with smoke, climb on the rooftop, and jump to the next building." How many are going upstairs--Not me.
I firmly believe that most people will take and easier path if it is available to them. Many chose not to have weight loss surgery for a variety of reasons--mainly money, fear, or ignorance--or it may just not be right for them. However, If I invented a pill that you take one time and you will wake up the next morning at your ideal weight--with no health risks--and it was free..........do you know anyone that is morbidly obese that wouldn't take it?
I am OK with having taken the "easy way out" if that is how someone sees it..

I had lasik surgery a few years ago ... I guess I CHEATED!
Man ... some people.

Not tricking flicking.

They CHEATED YOU......out of all the hard work you put into this, the surgery, the one oz at a time ice , and all the measuring, the excecising, the. "remember a meal size should never be more then 2oz.. This tricking surgery is no easy way out, if it was easy I should be eating A Marie challendars turkey dinner.