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It brought tears to my eyes reading your post! It reminds me of so many times people are thoughtless. I wish you much happiness and success for the future!

Yes, I went through 6 months of dr supervised nutrition classes, sleep study, psych eval, x-rays, blood work, etc. I'm glad that it took six months because during this time I became more knowledgeable of what I'm doing, why I'm doing this, what to expect, and to just feel much more comfortable with the entire process. I didn't want a quick approval process. I feel I'm more prepared and ready to undergo surgery, deal with the post-surgery issues and begin my new lifestyle. Good luck to everyone! Peg

Getting ready to leave for surgery!

Honestly, he may of had an "off" day but you should go with your gut. Liking his staff is certainly a plus! I saw my surgeon for the consult and about 5 minutes before surgery. Beyond that, my appointments were done with her assistant or staff which is not something they tell you. Go with your gut or know that someone with better bedside manner may handle your other appointments. If he's a good surgeon, you may want to stick around.... Good luck!

You can make it just keep yourself busy. If you feel like you are about to slip get up and go into the bathroom and take a nice bath or shower. You will feel better when you are finished. just remember the reward is worth the sacrifice.

What he said. Until my second to last fill I could comfortably drink while eating. It didn't matter to my satiety level either way. Then I could sip with my meal. After my last fill a couple months ago, if I sip with a meal, it upsets the delicate balance and BAM, stuck and hurl. It just isn't worth it. I usually have some Water sitting nearby, but it goes untouched as soon as I start eating. It happens naturally after you've been stuck a few times.

Hey, don't worry we all will be drop dead HOT soon enough. Don't ever think the way someone remembers us is a bad thing. It just means we have a spot in their memory bank. Better to be here on earth than not. Big or small. Keep your head up and working hard. Crystal

First of all, I am very sorry that that happened and that your feelings were hurt. I have come to realize that there are simply some people in this world who have a serious gap between their brains and their mouths and I don't know if they mean to be rude or if they are oblivious to just how hateful the words coming out tend to be. It doesn't make it hurt any less. I understand what you are saying. I ask myself all the time how I could have allowed myself to become what I am. I am still the same person but I wear a coat of armor that has been built up over the years as a "protective layer" if you will. As outgoing as I am, privately I am very insecure. I want to be everyone's friend and I want to be the person that is always smiling and positive. I am not always. I have had my share of really insensitive (or blithely unaware) people that have said things that were truly mean. I never really got hurt from people who were being deliberately mean, it was always something like a little kid saying something innocently that hurt me, because kids just see what they see and I had to admit it was true. I had a "mean girl" in college come up to me because she wanted my seat (I sat in like the 3rd row of an auditorium). There were hundreds of empty seats and it was simply her way of exerting herself. She came up and told (not asked) me to move (at the time I was 100 pounds less than I am now) and I said no. She said "well, you don't want to move because you are fat and lazy". I slowly looked up and sizing her up and down (a barbie doll nightmare sorority chick) and said, "Well, there was an intelligent response. Perhaps I should speak with the dean about the state of affairs at this university and how terribly obvious it is that they are scraping the bottom of the barrel for students." She burst into tears, quit the class and I never saw her again. I can be pretty damn mean myself. But anyway, it was always the innocent remarks that stung the worst. I really hope he didn't mean it the way it came out, but if he did, then he is a schmuck. You are taking control of your life and you are beautiful and you are strong. You will become the best you that you can be and I am going to be so thrilled to see how well you do. Take care, Jen

Denise, you sure are doing a lot of research today!!! Keep it coming! LOVING IT! Had I seen these stats before and been UNINFORMED, I would be scared. However, I know that success can happen with the band, as evidenced by all the forum members I have seen here have incredible success. I'm not big on statistics anyway, because, you can never be sure how someone is going into surgery. They could be thinking they can continue their ways and the band will do all the work--but I know I am going to change.

I'm not sure what the original posters reason is for not telling everyone, but I have also made the decision not to tell certain people. However, MOST people do know. There are two key people that I have decided not to tell because they have expressed their negative opinions to me about other people who have had WLS. I just did not wish to have the negativity in my life. I went with my gut and told people who I knew would support me, and they have. I think it's a personal decision for all. Not all people are kind and/or supportive and I believe it's smarter to just not include them.