People can do things without meaning to, but when someone brings you cupcakes knowing what they do, then yes you have to ask some questions - it sounds very passive aggressive to me.

The main thing is to be assertive - I recently had an aquaintance throw away a dozen cupcakes her hubby brought in and he said "why did you do that?!" and she said "because I told you I would". he had bringing "treats" in for himself - not the two or three cupcakes he would have ate, and not putting them somewhere she would not need to come across - but a dozen or more, and on the counter near her foods. So she stepped up and threw them out - opened the box and dumped them into the trash.

We can't compromise on ourselves, and we cannot allow others to do so either. Nope. Nada. shhhh. don't argue.

Good luck.

I think at this point, it was just love. They can't possibly understand your train of thought and focus - they're not there.

I think if they continue to do it after you have asked them not to and given them a valid reason, then it might be sabotage.

There can be a happy medium with "sweets" - its just a matter of making them differently - using agave or stevia for sweetner, using black beans in brownies instead of so much flour. However, YOU have to be ready for that. You're not depriving them of these items - they can go anywhere and have them at any time

My fiance brings sweets into the house all the time. But thankfully I have the willpower to say no. At first I thought it was sabotage but then I thought he has always eaten junk food. I look at it as the sleeve was my decision and therefore it is my responsibility and I can't expect him to diet with me. I did tell him not to offer me any because he knows my fght.

It's a struggle and a difficult one. I pray you stay strong and your family takes into consideration the goal you are trying to reach and help with more healthy food choices for you and them.

Good luck!!

Old habits are hard for the whole family to break. These things have been loving in the past. Be patient with them but communicate that these things make it hard for you to get healthy. This has been hard for our family too.