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Notice Me, Please!

Kime-lou

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I am 3 months post op and have lost 35 lbs, which I feel is good. All my clothes feel looser and I have had to stop wearing some. I am actually wearing an old pair of 16's. When I look in the mirror I see a difference in my face. I know I am smaller, but........

 

No one seems to notice the missing 35 lbs. I am one of these nutty folks who likes some pats on the back to motivate me to continue. I work for the school system, so when staff returned I was down 20 lbs, no one said anything, then I after 35 no one still says hey you are losing weight. There are only 2 co-workers who ever tell me they can see a difference, but they both know about the surgery so they are looking for it. My husband and my mom both say they see it, but they are biased.

 

I know I should just be happy knowing I have lost the weight, but geez what is it going to take me loosing 100 for people to notice. I want to look good, to be pretty. To me I am still the hungry hippo I've always been. I have been obese since I was 6, so I don't know what it's like to be the cute, pretty girl. I just want some props, someone to notice the hard work. I still have a long way to go to reach goal, and I hope by then I can stop viewing myself as the big girl.

 

I don't want tons of praise, but just a pat on the back or hey girl you are looking good. I guess I look for other peoples view of me to much, but that is just the way I am.

 

Does anyone else feel like this?



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I hear you...I am in the same boat....I have lost 30 lbs since begining of July. Everyone that knows i had the surgery has commented but no one at work who doesn't know hasn't said a word - and it is very obvious ...I was bummed at first but a few people i know socially have commented and i am actually embarrased and not sure how to answer their questions - how i did it - what am i eating - some days i tell people it was Lap Band and others i have said doctor supervised diet along with excercise!!! I think some of the people from work have seen me do every diet in the world and are probably afraid to comment bc i haven't talked about anything recently - they know i have been to the doctors frequently and i wonder if they think i might be sick!!

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Back in 2009 I had gotten to 227 lbs and decided I was done. I began walking on the treadmill, then eventually running on the treadmill, then eventually running outside. I had to go from about 227 to 190 before anyone really noticed. I had gotten down to 156 and it was really noticeable!

I managed to get back to 195 and decided to take a more permanent solution. I was banded on August 23rd and I can't wait to see 30-40 lbs gone! Sometimes it just takes about 40-50 lbs to really see it. You're doing great, keep up the good work, soon you'll get tired of all the compliments!!

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I know what you're talking about. I hate to be noticed yet I want people to comment. I just saw a lot of people for the Jewish New Year and most people said nothing and I am down 57 lbs. That sucked. I feel for you. I just put on a new pair of jeans that I bought last week and they were tight. They are a misses, not women's size 18! That is great for me.

Good luck.

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Kime-lou, I can relate to what you are feeling. However, as much as we want that reassurance, I think there are a couple things that may hinder it. First, sometimes whilst we are in transition we are wearing the same clothes (that are just baggier). Until I bought a few new more fitted items, no one said much. Another thing is that some people are afraid of drawing attention to it as they may feel it is very personal and trying to respect your privacy.

The people I work with everyday have said a few things and said it is very noticeable (I have lost 44lbs); however, my former day-to-day coworkers didn't say anything when I saw them recently. I was a little bummed but also know in my own mind and heart that I am doing well and only I can make myself feel good about it.

Keep up the good work and reward yourself from time to time with a new top or outfit to embrace your new size as able. :) The confidence you exude will draw attention as well. :)

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Hi there, sorry if the post it's too long but I can totally relate or not if that makes any kind of sense lol!! I too have been obese since I was five I'm about six weeks post-op and including my two weeks pre-op I have lost a total of 42lbs =) Ok well since my highest weight was 445lbs I knew it was going to take at least 100lbs fo rpeople to notice it because I was just too big. This year i've been hiding and not going ut that much because I did no tliked what I saw. In the mean time I got bigger so some people if they see me they probably wont see a difference cause I'll look the same since they last saw me. People in my daily life and that know about it ( cause not alot op people know about it) look out for those difference and sometimes I think they are just trying to be nice. So to make story short ( well shorter lol) I'm documeting my journey on Youtube and even with nice comments and my clothes fiiting better ect. It still took me 10 videos to really see what my family claim to see in my face at least Ifinally saw it 2 days ago =) I want the pat on th eback too but then again i'm so insecure that I don't believe people. Anyway why don't you try documenting you weight loss jouney on youtube, or here in the photo section or if you are not cofortable with that so a picture scrapbook for yourself do it like every 10lbs or so or what ever you choose even better do it with the same clothes so you can see the differnce. Hope this helps =) and if you or anybody else have a youtube Channel I invite you to subcribe to my channel I would really apprciate it, an dimf not you can just watch my videos that cool too. I'll leave the link to my last video. Have an awsome day! =)

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i think people that see you on a daily basis arent going to notice your weight loss as much as someone you havent seen in awhile.....ive lost 14 lbs on my pre op diet....i havent been able to take my wedding ring off in 5 yrs and it came off easily today....so im expecting everyone to notice my weight loss!! lol only 2 people commented on it....so i decided...as long as i can see the difference(on the scale,by the feel of my clothes,by measuring)...who cares what others notice?

most people are too selfish and wrapped up in their own world anyway....and i think thats why most people dont notice....lol

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you have done something awsome for your health, you took the bull by the horns and have done something about the current struggle with obesity. Question for you are alot of your collegues and aquantiances of a larger size? Are they maybe not noticing because they are jelous?

Keep posting and I will keep on cheering you on.

My little sister noticed at first, but then when I got thinner then her in looks and jean size, she stoped talking to me all together. I think she is wrestling with her own demons about the weight. I want her to talk to me about how she may or may not feel about surgery. I want to share the ups and downs with her.

Keep on doing this for you and no one else.

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They see you, but don't worry about it, some people are jealous and don't want to say anything because you are losing the weight, but as long as you can see and fell the differece in your clothes. As long as you see it and feel the difference in your clothes.

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I am down 84lbs since Surgery in April and I hardly get comments from anyone. Heck even my own parents don't comment much. Personally, I find the constant compliments a hindrance while of course flattering.

2003 I did Atkins for 19 months and lost a 172lbs. Everyone told me how great I looked and how I was really rocking it. I found with the more compliments I got the more complacent I got. Life was good and it was time to enjoy it and I dropped the ball and did a terrible dis-service to myself. 2011 I weighed in at 488. I gained all my weight back plus another 90lbs.

Anyway, we are all different and I see your side but aside from hearing compliments from all of you who support me on here, I am all set. For now on it's all about how I feel about myself and not how others see me.

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As some of the others have said, I've noticed that when I've finally bought smaller clothes people started noticing. Now my scrubs at work are huge and when I come in with smaller scrubs everyone notices. Keep up the good work!

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