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Kime-lou

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I am just 6 weeks post of and have lost 23 lbs. While that is great and I happy to have lost it and that my clothes fit better, I am having a fat day. While I know I am still fat (221), I want the feeling of feeling better about myself to come back. The change.... negative people. I work with several banders, one succesful at 60lbs lost, and 2 unsuccesful. The unsuccessful ones think I am crazy for doing it because it doesn't work.

 

The one that has lost 60lbs and kept it off seems to have an attitude now. She keeps telling me that I won't be able to lose the 100lbs I want to. She said I will only lose about 40% of my excess weight. My doctor keeps telling me that I will lose as much as I work at losing-- meaning if I excercise and eat right I can lose the 100lbs I want to.

 

The negitve co-worker picks apart everything I eat telling me what is bad about it. Then they go get milkshakes and offer me one - hell no I don't want a milkshake. Today when I didn't bring lunch because literally the dog ate (stole it from the counter when I turned my back) I said I was going to run out and pick up lunch. Then I get- you know that really isn't good for you, you aren't going to lose weight like that. Just because I run pick something up doesn't mean I am going to make a bad choice as to what to get. I know I need to just let it go and ignore her, but when you see a person daily who is being negative it wears on you. I can't keep from seeing her, she is two offices down and literally I am going to see and bump into her. I realize this is just a mental game, maybe she doesn't want me to be more successful than her. However, her being this way is giving me motivation to show her.... can't wait to get home and hit the elliptical.

 

It is odd how my attitude has changed. Pre-band I would go to food due to hurt feelings, now I go work out and literally work out the frustration and then I feel so much better afterward.

 

I am going to do this, but the negative people are singing a chorus in my head that I will fail.

 

How do you deal with negative people?

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If you read my old blog, we would have had two diffrent problems. But I can almost see yours as being worst. You cant do anything without somebody from party "A" saying something or somebody from party "B" saying something. Mabey the band did not work for them because they drink milkshakes..... And the other could have a sneaky underlying agenda....OR she could feel like she did the "Best" and can give "great" advice..... or be somesort of know it all.....and not even realize what she is doing.....Honestly I have did that ...not with another bandster, but with work stuff and a friend at work....just because I got an award, it made me feel like ok Im doing my job and I am doing it well, which made me look at what my friend was doing, and I found myself "always" giving tips and advice .....until she said shut the hell up! ... And then I got it.......

Do you! I would just not eat around them ....but the I bet they would say you are starving yourself....Mabey you should ..in a joking way tell them to shut the hell up before you rip out thier non working bands and strangle them with it!

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sounds like you are doing and dealing with it just fine. you continue to do what works for you. your statement about the unsuccessful ones saying the band doesnt work (for them) told me alot about them. it did not work for them as they did not want it to work. we know the band is not a magic wand. you cant drink milkshakes and lose weight. you just cant. those extra fats/cals will catch up eventually.

you dont worry about neg people

they multiply like french fries at mcdonalds.

in one ear out the other.

if they offer you advise, listen and then take

it with a grain of salt.

everyone has opinions and reasons and (some are neg because you are doing so well)

consider the source

and then, prove them wrong.

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Mean people suck!

Don't worry about them being negative, that is just what they do and who they are. Instead click on the photos before and after tab, read some of the post that I have seen here latley or in the past....

It works and the folks who are having success are more than willing to share the details with you. Keep your chin up and keep us posted...

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Thanks all. I opted to eat at my desk today and ms negative had to come in my office to see what I was eating. I wanted to toss it in her face. Yeah I went to McDonalds and no I did not get a big mac (gross) I got a salad. I ate the grilled chicken on top and some lettuce and now I am full- yeah me!!

I so want to stick it to them and show them what kind of success you can have if you put your mind to it.

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You work on losing your 100 lbs. Make it a contest with yourself to prove them wrong. They have the band and still jealous.

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I think you hit it right on the head. That heifer is scared you are going to out do her. The best revenge???? OUT DO HER!!! Most people that pick on others is just insecure of themselves. I am probably a little more outspoken than alot of people. But I would have told her to shut up and mind her own business from the get go.

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Ignore them. I am proof that it can be done and there are many more like me out there. Yes it is hard work, yes it has taken me almost 2 years. Everyone's personal success is just that, they do say a 40% weight loss is good with lap band but I have set out to prove them all wrong. I will get to my ideal body weight. I am determined, my surgeon gave me a tool and I am using it to it's full potential and working my butt off to get to where I want to be. Just follow the rules, adopt a healthy life style and prove them all wrong. Gets them every time, my new philosophy is put up or shut up. Good luck to you and all of you, you can do this, you are all worth it!

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