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How do you deal with negative people?

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Sarah8807

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Im really sick of all the negativity about lapband around me. I do have about a handful of people (immediate family and a few friends) that support me in this journey, but it seems like everyone I work with has something negative to say about lapband. Today someone told me that lapband is being sewed because people are choking and not able to breathe and then dying! wtf?? I have not heard ANYTHING like this. Then to top it off all of my coworkers comment on EVERYTHING i eat (or drink I should say since still on pre op diet). People have just been flat out rude about lapband to me. I don't get it. I would never sit and discourage someone from something they are working so hard towards. My friends and family say to just ignore them, which is what I try to do, but why would grown adults act this way? All of the people that are being so discouraging are overweight. So it makes me wonder if maybe they are just scared to do lapband themselves so they want to pick on the person that IS doing it?? I dont know...I know I need to just stop caring but it's annoying..............

 

I do have some good news though. Im 4 days into my pre-op diet and im down 8lbs!!!! whoooot whoot! :D

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See those neg people just wanna get where u r really they hate themselves but look u do what u need to do to get healthy. i wish i haven't told certain people because first thing they say is Why u gonna do that just go to the gym well that explains y there ass is spreading People

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ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO TRY TO SCARE YOU OR SHOOT DOWN THE BAND, THEY ARE ALL JEALOUS, OR SCARED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIER OWN WEIGHT, OR MAYBE JUST NOT EDUCATED ENOUGH ABOUT THE BAND...

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Yep what they said! You just kill them with kindness and a great big ole smile! You got this and you will show them! Im sure once they see how well you are doing they will be asking more positive questions and looking into it more. SHAME ON THEM! Good luck to you.

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good luck to you, don't listen to them is right..........I am 60 and had the band done 9 months ago and so happy I did it. When a young man friend told me yesterday how great I look and I am doing so great dieting..........I was so proud I thought I would burst. Yes, I am on a diet but the only thing is I have a tool that helps me diet but I still am on a diet and have to watch what I put in my mouth. And by the way, this friend does know I had the lapband.

Judy

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I agree , those who are talking trash are jealous of the willpower you are showing and the courage you have taken to start your journey. Not everyone is a like...I was banded 8/19 and have lost about 18 pounds since my banding. I wish it was more, but everyday I just keep thinking how I did not put the weight on overnight so it won't come off overnight.

You just stick to your guns and think how envious they will all be when you are lean and healthy.

Those who can have the lapband, those who can't, criticize.

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Just think how good it is going to feel when you get to your target weight and are looking sexy/hot and wearing super cute clothes... They are going to be green with envy. You will most likely see another one going to get banded.. No worries...

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I got a lot of that before I was banded to. Once they see the weight loss and you handling it pretty well the comments pretty much stop or are very minor. You just keep doing what you're doing and try to stay positive!

Funny... one of the girls that told me it's the easy way out just had surgery last week. She's trying to hide it but everyone already knows lol. She's like 340 lbs I THINK we'll start to notice a difference at some point.

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ALL THOSE PEOPLE WHO TRY TO SCARE YOU OR SHOOT DOWN THE BAND, THEY ARE ALL JEALOUS, OR SCARED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIER OWN WEIGHT, OR MAYBE JUST NOT EDUCATED ENOUGH ABOUT THE BAND...

I totally agree with this post. Most are jealous because they wish they could afford/qualify for the surgery. Then there are ones that look at it as as an easy way out. They have no idea what we go through. I would just keep doing what youre doing and let them hate!

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i decided to only tell a very few select people about my band. those that had something negative to say i just no longer discuss it with them PERIOD! this my journey and no one else. EVERYBODY ELSE CAN JUST KICK ROCKS!!!

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