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Breastfeeding in public:

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Started by Wheetsin, Oct 17, 2008 1:09 AM
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Poll: Breastfeeding in public: (select all that apply) (25 member(s) have cast votes)

Breastfeeding in public: (select all that apply)

  1. Should never be done, period. (6 votes [2.56%])

    Percentage of vote: 2.56%

  2. Is fine with modest measures such as a nursing cover or blanket drape to cover her body. (107 votes [45.73%])

    Percentage of vote: 45.73%

  3. Is fine when done out of the public eye, like in a restroom, but should not be done in busy areas. (22 votes [9.40%])

    Percentage of vote: 9.40%

  4. Is only ok in places that aren't very crowded/populated. (3 votes [1.28%])

    Percentage of vote: 1.28%

  5. Is only ok if small children aren't around. (1 votes [0.43%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.43%

  6. Is fine any time and anywhere, it's natural and babies need to eat. (95 votes [40.60%])

    Percentage of vote: 40.60%

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    gadgetlady

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Posted October 22, 2008 - 1:47 PM

#41

I hope I can produce milk to last the first year. I will need to have the baby on a bottle by month 3, but in my ideal world can get her to take both, and will BF at home and hopefully can make it to the daycare at least once a day during breaks.


Wheetsin, if you take fenugreek it will increase your milk production. Get a good quality pump and, when you're away from the baby, always pump on schedule. That should keep you producing regularly; it's when you start to skip feedings and/or pumpings that your body starts to produce less because it thinks you're weaning.


    gadgetlady

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Posted October 22, 2008 - 3:49 PM

#42
P.S. When are you due?


    lilith

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Posted October 24, 2008 - 11:41 AM

#43
I nursed all three of mine, the first one I covered up, the second one, I tried to cover up, by the third one, I really didn't care! But by then I was good at hiding it, and I wore shirts that made it easy.

Most embarrassing BF moment - I was in home depot and had my son on my hip while I talked to the saleman about a storm door, I look down and realize my son has unbuttoned my shirt and removed my breast from my bra without me even noticing... I slowly backed away while keeping eye contact and got the heck out of there as fast as I could! He got weaned right then!

Worst BF moment - same kid, I was breastfeeding him when we, him, my oldest daughter, and myself all got the chickenpox! I wanted to stop nursing but the ped convinced me he needed it more then than ever..... it was miserable! I remember crying while I nursed him, poor little guy, he was as gentle as he could be.


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Posted October 27, 2008 - 1:24 PM

#44
I breastfed my children. I was "gifted" with rather large breasts even before I was overweight so when I fed my children, there was no hiding it without light baby blanket to cover. My children were also the type to eat a bit and then want to look around for a second. They also had a number of allergies and stuffy noses. Had I fed them in a public place, I would have been TOTALLY exposed quite often. I feel that it becomes inappropriate at that point.

It is not just a matter of what our rights are or how natural it is. It is a matter if not causing others to be uncomfortable either. I have the right to feed my child, yes, BUT, I should also keep myself covered while doing so.

Also, when I began to lactate, I did not turn into a cow. I still don't want my breasts shown to the public. They are a private thing and I know my husband would not appreciate them being shown off just because I was feeding our children.

As for feeding in the restroom....NO WAY! They are full of germs and smell horrible. I would never eat in the restroom and my child should not either.

Most of the time, I would look for an out of the way peaceful place. Breastfeeding was a very bonding time for me and my children as well as a feeding time. If I could not find an out of the way place, I would be sure I was covered for me and those around me.

I think seeing a woman who is covered says "Oh, there is a mama feeding her baby". I think a woman who is covered says "Wow, there's a boob!"


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Posted November 14, 2008 - 1:15 AM

#45
Wheetsin, when you introduce the bottle with breastmilk in it, make it the rarity in the beginning---stick mostly with the breast as much as you can.

When my granddaughter was born, she was a preemie, and did not have a sucking instinct, combine that with my DD being VERY well endowed and the baby could not latch on. DD worked with a lactation specialist both in the hospital and after going home. She pumped and with work they finally got the baby to suck a bottle, but it is so much easier, she would never even try to latch on to the breast.

I got used to talking to my DD on the phone and hearing the rhythmic sound of the pump going in the background!!! She pumped and fed for a year...then my granddaughter refused the bottle, and would never take the breast milk in a sippy cup.

That being said, for a 4 pound baby-----she is going to be 4 years in a couple of weeks, and we could count on one hand how many times she has been sick.

Her Mom, my DD, was breastfed for about 18-20 months, and had so many ear infections they had me almost keep her standing up to feed----not a comfy position for either of us!!! When we graduated from ear infections we went to strep throat----I bet her medical file would be 4 inches thick. Got rid of the tonsils at 12, and she has seldom been sick since. Makes me wonder if they were not the problem from early on......

Point being, sometimes no matter how hard you try to do the "right" thing, it is not perfect, and it is not a reflection on whether you did right or wrong!

I vote for a simple covering, as was stated before, to keep the babies interest in the breast, NOT in everything else around them. Usually beginning that way from newborn, they become accustomed to that.

Enjoy your time with that new little girl!!!

Kat


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Posted November 14, 2008 - 2:01 AM

#46
I never have tried to cover up and be modest about it. I don't flash it to all and sundry, but I just as I don't cover my head with a blanket when I eat, I don't expect someone to expect me to throw a blanket over my child when he eats.

I think part of the attitude that says women should be modest stems from society thinking breastfeeding is somehow an issue of modesty, when IMO it isn't. If breastfeeding was more normalised, it wouldn't be considered immodest. There used to be a time when showing one's ankles was considered immodest, but attitudes change, why can't this one?

Anyhow, as they say, if my breastfeeding offends you, you should feel free to throw a blanket over your own head, because let's face it, I'm not the one who has a problem with it.


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Posted November 16, 2008 - 10:27 PM

#47
I tried to breastfeed all mine. But I only managed successfully with my middle one. My daughter. My oldest son I had a very backwards kind of doctor. he didnt do ultrasounds, and didnt have a problem with me gaining almost 100 lbs!! And I found out after my son was born he was TOTALLY against breastfeeding.

Only manged 6 weeks with him. Mainly because I had noone to talk to for advice about it. I ended up putting eldest on the bottle out of pain and frustration.

So when pregnant with my daughter I had access to breastfeeding classes and books and the net. Thank heavens the doc had since retired cause when I learned in the breastfeeding classes that the whole reason I had suffered pain and scaring was simply because my son wasn't getting enough of the nipple in his mouth for it to work right. I would have litterly kicked that doctors ass. Boy was I pissed.

DD nursed just fine for 10 months almost to the day.
I used to sit in the backseat of the car with her so she could nurse without being removed from her carseat!!
Never had any issues feeding her in public but I always used at blanket.
Only problem we had with her was not being able to leave h er with anyone because she REFUSED to take anything even breastmilk from any other source but me. lol.
we tried sippy cups, spoon, bottles of every shape and size, even an eyedropper. All no go. Even if it was me trying to give her breastmilk didnt matter.

At the 10 month mark I take her to her ped and they recommend starting apple juice. And that night was the last time she nursed period!! Once she tried juice she then refused the breast.!!! LOL Much to my dismay. Thank the stars for hot showers and breast pumps!!

Talk about a painfull weaning. But she refused anything but her juice bottles from that point on. Which really caused allot of concern since only juice isnt good for a child. we ended up finding a mix of formula and juice that she would finally tollerate some and was suplimented with liquid vitamins on top of it all.

youngest I wanted to breastfeed but couldnt since all the complications we had. He and I were seperate hosptials, and got out way before I did. I demanded a breast pump and tried using it. but had little luck. After 2 weeks of struggling with the pump I gave up. Very frustrated.

I was extremly upset to find out (AFTER I got home) That I had M.R.S.A and would have never been allowed to give my son breastmilk anyhow. Had I known this from the begining I wouldnt have spent so much effort in getting results with the pump.

all 3 had issues with ear infections etc as kids, but when it comes to the #'s of colds/ear/sniffles they had it seems to me that the oldest had the most and the youngest the least. However I think much of that also comes down to the fact that you learn enough with each progressive child that you don't tend to react as much as you might have with the first child.
Bah that doesn't sound right. lol hopefully you can get what I mean.


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Posted December 19, 2008 - 4:32 PM

#48

I love to hear other moms talk about how they miss nursing. I do, too! :sad:

It was that thing I could only do for her.....then him.....then a 'her' again. :biggrin: AND.....it was so nice to finally sit down, kick back, relax and just "be". Just be mom and baby. And I love,love,LOVED that 'milk drunk' look they would get just before they passed out from satisfaction.


makes me want to have another........:woot: (with two toddlers at my feet.....) :woot:


ETA: I think I need to permanently leave this thread before I ovulate! ;)


I had to smile when I read that.

It is just one of those things you have to experience to understand. I like it too and am very happy that I will be enjoying this part of motherhood again this summer, lol.


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Posted December 19, 2008 - 4:46 PM

#49

Things like that make me mad, too, Mac. I was a victim of very uninformed doctors and nurses when I had my first child.


I just recently felt like I was a victim as well.

I am pregnant with my second child, but my first was 16 years ago (where I lived breastfeeding just wasn't that popular at the time). I talked to my OB doctor about how I was saddened that I had to give up breastfeeding early because I had mastitis and was told that my milk was not good for the baby. I had really wanted a full year of breast-feeding and was concerned about how things might go with this child.

She then proceeded to tell me that Mastitis was no reason to stop breastfeeding the baby. I could have fed the baby, or at the very least pumped and discarded until I got over the infection. It is a common issue with an easy resolution.

What???? I was told I had to give up breastfeeding by my doctor all those years ago for a minor, insignificant thing??? I now feel like I was misinformed but was too young and naieve to know it at the time (it is not like now where information is so easily accessible on the internet).

Edited by HeatherO, December 19, 2008 - 4:48 PM.



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Posted December 19, 2008 - 5:17 PM

#50
I voted for a light covering. It doesn't necessarily have to be a blanket, a shirt and the babies head are fine, but I really am not comfortable with fully exposed breasts in public. I am all for moderate modesty. It is not so much for fear of offending others, i think it is just tasteful and respectful.

For me this extends beyond just breastfeeding.

I also don't really want to see peoples thongs as they are walking, or braless girls with a see-through shirt, or butt-cracks above sweatpants that say "juicy" like I saw at the mall the other day. There is just something about juicy butt-cracks that give me the shivers, yuccckkkk lol.

I guess I feel the same about people who seriously make-out in public (I don't mean just a kiss or holding hands). I also remember my son once asking me why is Bob so happy on the Extenz commercial - that wasn't a comfortable conversation, lol. Does this have to be for public consumption???

I feel that people should be able to breastfeed anywhere but a little modesty never hurts. Especially when we live in such a diverse world.


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