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Enjoy yourself, learn to love you, find yourself, have fun, try new things, enjoy your friends, take it slow, and live life!

Follow your heart but listen to your brain.

Best of luck to you!

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I'm 30 and haven't done much dating, and it does feel dishonest in some ways to date now. Not to mention hard in general.

I keep it to myself. No one needs to know unless the relationship becomes serious.

Focus more on figuring out how to date first.


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I can't give advice on dating post WLS, but I'll share the things I did find.

A date's just a date. Try to have fun, laugh, connect - however it is you would with friends.

Don't go in with expectations of something life changing - life rarely changes in a hour or two, and expecting it to puts an awful lot of pressure on you and your date.

I split up from a long term partner seven years ago. I went out dating pretty quickly but decided that I just wanted to meet smart funny cute women and that I would enjoy their company. I had dates where I knew we wouldn't be intimate and they were brilliant fun. In the past I might have worried about whether we'd get together but I just decided that the only thing that mattered was enjoying the date.

As it happened I met my gorgeous wife and something did 'click'. And now we have a five year old son.

So my best advice is think of it like a couple of hours you want to enjoy and not an interview for being life partners or lovers.


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