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Every day offers a good chance to think about your relationships. You may think of your significant other first, and then consider other relationships such as those with friends and other family members. Unfortunately, that leaves out the most important relationship you can develop: the relationship you have with yourself.



It takes a lot of work for you prepare for and recover from weight loss surgery, and to continue to lose weight and get healthy. With all that focus on yourself, it sounds strange that you could be neglecting yourself, but it often happens. If you do not work on strengthening your self-respect, self-confidence, and self-love, you may not be as successful in your weight loss surgery journey. Here are some easy tips for building a little rapport with the most important person in your life: you.

Recognize Your Greatness

You would do everything you could to recognize the good things about someone else if you were building a relationship with them, and you can do the same for yourself to build your relationship with yourself. It can take some practice to get into the habit of recognizing your good qualities and your good choices, so get started! Don’t forget to appreciate:

  • Every milestone, whether a weight loss milestone or a non-scale victory.
  • Each good decision you make, such as packing a lunch instead of leaving it to chance.
  • How energized and proud you feel after eating right and exercising.
  • Your new inner strength for recognizing what’s important – your health – and setting aside what’s not – a few moments of short-lived gratification when you visit the drive-through.
  • Your efforts and resolution – because what you are doing is not easy!

Reward yourself when you deserve it

Little gifts can make your appreciation seem sincerer, and motivate you to keep up the good work. Give yourself treats regularly to reward yourself for any progress you made, or “just because.” A night curled up with a box of pizza is no longer an option, but there are plenty of far better ways to show yourself “I love me!”

  • A massage or spa treatment.
  • New workout clothes or other new clothes.
  • A new app or fitness monitor to motivate you and show your progress.
  • A morning sleeping in.
  • Getting your house cleaned.
  • A makeover or parts of one, such as a new haircut or different color nail polish.

Be Your Biggest Supporter

Consider what a supporter does, and figure out how you can be your own biggest one. It can take some effort, such as planning ahead to pave the way for healthier choices, such as packing breakfast the night before so you do not go through the drive-through, keeping a pair of walking shoes in the car so you can grab a walk anywhere whenever you have time, and putting each of your surgeon appointments and support group meetings on your calendar so you cannot forget.

A supporter is also your biggest advocate. Speak up for yourself when needed, whether it is to tell the server at the restaurant that you need smaller portions and you would like the sauce on the side, or whether it is to tell your mother that you are doing this surgery for yourself because you need to. Your advocacy may include being firm with the surgeon about your preference for the surgery type you want.

Don’t Deprive Yourself

Telling yourself “no” constantly is no way to build a loving relationship! Grow the love by giving yourself treats. Just make sure they are on your diet. You might end the day with some Protein Cocoa or Chocolate Caramel Crispy Bites, sneak in some BBQ Zippers for an afternoon crunch, or greet the weekend with Protein Pancakes and a Protein Omelet. There are plenty of recipes online for healthy alternatives to favorite comfort foods from pizza and fried chicken to ice cream and brownies.

Balance Tough Love with Forgiveness

Honesty is the foundation for any strong relationship, including this one. Call yourself out when you make a decision you’re not proud of or you find yourself slipping into a slump where the scale starts creeping up or sweets start sneaking their way into your diet.

At the same time, realize that you will not be perfect, and accept that fact. Develop a plan for when you catch yourself off track. Your plan will probably include recognizing your mistakes, forgiving yourself forb them, considering what led you to make them, and resolving to fix them.

Build a stronger relationship with yourself, and you are setting yourself up for better success in the short and long terms. It takes some practice, but the results are well worth it.

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Still holds true, Alex ,even after 30 months much wisdom t9 be fo7nd there.

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And You are Now the CEO of YOU! Add, prioritize, catalog what you need, Delete if necessary but the Person to Please is YOU and YOU alone. A Good Life is right down the path you've been traveling, Yes right Around That Corner Ahead!😛👍🌈

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