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Almost 20 years ago, I took my wedding ring off. It was early 1998, and I was working in my shop. I caught my ring on a machine and lost a big chunk out of my finger. I took it off, and bandaged it up. At home that night, I told Mrs LittleBill, "I will gladly give my life for you, but I won't lose my finger". She was fine with that. For the past 19 years I haven't worn it.

Now that I am losing weight, women are hitting on me. I know, I know, hard to believe, right? But even before, it was an issue. My voice is deep - Darth Vader deep. Women approach me even with Mrs. LittleBill right there. So I am putting it back on.

It feels weird. My finger is not normal. In high school, it was broken in two places in a wrestling match. Just to get over my knuckle, my ring is the size of a small napkin ring. I suppose my fingers were a little fatter to boot, but now they are skinny, and my ring slips right on - almost. I am sure I will get used to it. I did once before. And we have been married a long time.

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Some women won't care if are wearing a ring, just sayin'. Sounds like that must have been very painful when you did that to your finger. Ouch.

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If the attention gets too much, they make silicone rings now that are good for people who work with their hands and could lose a finger with a metal ring.

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Some women won't care if are wearing a ring, just sayin'. Sounds like that must have been very painful when you did that to your finger. Ouch.

You are right. Mrs. LittleBill was one of them, but on the other side of the equation. I do see your point though. It was pretty painful, but stuff like that fades with time.

ETA: she didn't care in that she was not worried about me. That sentence above could cast aspersions on her character.

If the attention gets too much, they make silicone rings now that are good for people who work with their hands and could lose a finger with a metal ring.

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Thank you! This is a great idea! I had no idea that anyone made something like this. I will be checking it out. Tonight.

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I shrank out of my wedding ring, felt weird not wearing it. I ordered a package of the silicone ones in every size. So I've been going through those. Kind of nice because if I get then caught on anything it will break before I lose a finger.

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I haven't worn my ring or a watch since 1998. Now I've got both on - the watch is my fitness tracker. But, they come off in the shop. There are too many things that could go wrong there.

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For our 25 wedding anniversary my husband had a beautiful diamond and platinum ring made for me. It has a hinged shank so I can get it over my knuckle and tighten it once over. If you ever want to have your original wedding ring redone so you can wear it when not working in the shop a jeweler can help with this type of shank.

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@@Treadmillwalker I will have to check that out. If I do it, I can tell Mrs. LittleBill that on account of her, I've come unhinged. :D I am sure she would appreciate the sentiment.

Thank you.

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You'd better get used to them hitting on you, boss.

It's gonna happen.....ring or no ring. Your confidence and overall attitude will be being soaring and they'll key on that.

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@@Dub

I'm getting hit on too.

I'm surprised that my ring size has gone down so much. When I got married I was 12.5 "comfort fit"(slightly rounded inside) now I easily fit a regular 10.

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You'd better get used to them hitting on you, boss.

It's gonna happen.....ring or no ring. Your confidence and overall attitude will be being soaring and they'll key on that.

It has been going on for a while, and I suspect it will get worse. Probably the worst was the woman at the McDonald's drive through. Mrs. LittleBill and our youngest daughter were in the truck with me that day. I had had a couple of previous encounters with this woman. Anyway, I put our order in, and she started moaning right there over the speaker system. When we pulled around to the window, she was literally hanging out the window with her hand on my arm, moaning. Mrs. LittleBill was sitting there with a WTF look on her face. Our daughter was in the back seat saying "Eww eww eww!" I don't think a ring would have made a difference. I had to stop going there. Of course, it is moot now. :P

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@@Dub

I'm getting hit on too.

I'm surprised that my ring size has gone down so much. When I got married I was 12.5 "comfort fit"(slightly rounded inside) now I easily fit a regular 10.

Comfort fit was how I rolled, too.........back in the days where I wore a ring.

You'd better get used to them hitting on you, boss.

It's gonna happen.....ring or no ring. Your confidence and overall attitude will be being soaring and they'll key on that.

It has been going on for a while, and I suspect it will get worse. Probably the worst was the woman at the McDonald's drive through. Mrs. LittleBill and our youngest daughter were in the truck with me that day. I had had a couple of previous encounters with this woman. Anyway, I put our order in, and she started moaning right there over the speaker system. When we pulled around to the window, she was literally hanging out the window with her hand on my arm, moaning. Mrs. LittleBill was sitting there with a WTF look on her face. Our daughter was in the back seat saying "Eww eww eww!" I don't think a ring would have made a difference. I had to stop going there. Of course, it is moot now. :P

Dang, bro.

A happy meal was forthcoming there, indeed.

Funny times.

It's gonna be a wild ride, sir.....a potentially wild ride.

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