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Hi all!!!

I have not been on in a few months. I will be 2 years post op on July 2nd. I was doing well there for a while up until about a month ago. I just seem that I am not motivated any more. I am starting to become addicted to food again and become an emotional eater again. I do not want that. I am trying to get my Water in but not getting as much as I should. I have become lazy. I have gained about 16 lbs. It does not seem like much but my clothes are starting to get tight on my again.

Anyone have any suggestions? I belong to Kaiser Permanente now but did not have the surgery with them. Do you think that going to a support group may help me? I will never let my self get as big or even close to what I use to be. I wear a size 10-12 right now but before gaining that 16lbs I was an 8-10. Just need a little bit of encouragement or advise please.

Thank you all and have a very blessed night.

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I definitely think going to a support group would be a great idea. You might also want to see if you can see a therapist one-on-one and/or consider attending some recovery groups (like OA.org).

In the meantime, go back to basics and also see if you can make an appointment with a NUT to talk about updating your food plan.

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You absolutely positively need to get counseling. The farther out I get (2 1/2 years) the more convinced I am that long term success can only come with professional mental help. After all, surgery did not address WHY any of us became obese. The physical restriction and initial enthusiasm that first year or so is simply a bandaid for much deeper psychological issues. Without addressing the "whys" and learning how to change our behaviors, most people will go right back to doing all the same things they did to become fat in the first place. If you don't make some changes pretty quick, those 16 pounds will soon become 40 and then 60 and then 100, because the more you regain the less motivated you will become.

Your insurance should pay for psych visits. And it doesn't even have to be with a bariatric specialist. I started seeing a therapist for my grief and depression almost two years after my VSG. But the things I am learning are helping me in ALL aspects of my life, including how to feel and live with my emotions, rather than feeding them.

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I second @@Kindle 's motion.

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I'm so sorry to hear that. I know this surgery is not a fiscal, and I'm only 12 days out, so posts like this are very helpful. I can totally see how easy it may be to return to the emotional eating part. Tell me, for the two years did you replace the reading with something else for emotional support, or just use will power to avoid eating out of emotion. I need to change my mindset so this doesn't happen to me because it ALWAYS had after losing weight. I pray you find the answer and I thank you for sharing your struggles. Makes me realize this WLS is not a cure all.

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One good book that I often recommend is: Eat it Up! by Connie Stapleton.

Good idea. @@dannilynn1 if you aren't quite ready to jump full bore into therapy, maybe attending the support group meetings and sitting down with some good self help books would be a good start. besides this one, I found Cynthia Alexander's 'The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery" helpful. As well as "Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life" by Steven Hayes and the handbook offered through www.smartrecovery.org

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Hi all!!!

I have not been on in a few months. I will be 2 years post op on July 2nd. I was doing well there for a while up until about a month ago. I just seem that I am not motivated any more. I am starting to become addicted to food again and become an emotional eater again. I do not want that. I am trying to get my Water in but not getting as much as I should. I have become lazy. I have gained about 16 lbs. It does not seem like much but my clothes are starting to get tight on my again.

Anyone have any suggestions? I belong to Kaiser Permanente now but did not have the surgery with them. Do you think that going to a support group may help me? I will never let my self get as big or even close to what I use to be. I wear a size 10-12 right now but before gaining that 16lbs I was an 8-10. Just need a little bit of encouragement or advise please.

Thank you all and have a very blessed night.

:)

Exercise in or outside the house. I do both, Zumba in the am after little one is in school then 3days out with friends. Try adding flavors to your Water lemon lime fruit anything you think might help. Think back to where yoy came from and promise yourself no make a pack never to go back. I'm only 6 months out but vowed to never go back. Plus gave away all my cloths so lol

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Hi all!!!

I have not been on in a few months. I will be 2 years post op on July 2nd. I was doing well there for a while up until about a month ago. I just seem that I am not motivated any more. I am starting to become addicted to food again and become an emotional eater again. I do not want that. I am trying to get my Water in but not getting as much as I should. I have become lazy. I have gained about 16 lbs. It does not seem like much but my clothes are starting to get tight on my again.

Anyone have any suggestions? I belong to Kaiser Permanente now but did not have the surgery with them. Do you think that going to a support group may help me? I will never let my self get as big or even close to what I use to be. I wear a size 10-12 right now but before gaining that 16lbs I was an 8-10. Just need a little bit of encouragement or advise please.

Thank you all and have a very blessed night.

:)

Eat Protein first, until you feel full. No carbs, no grains.

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You made the first step - acknowledging you need help and reaching out in this forum! It seems your gut feeling to go to a support group is the right step. I agree with all of the above comments. Stay strong and keep us updated! You can do this!!!

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I try not to focus on results, but on inputs.

But, I do reward myself when I hit milestones.

One of my favorite rewards is getting a massage. Another is a mani/pedi.

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I am in desperate need of a good massage. Guess I need to hit another milestone, eh?

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I am in desperate need of a good massage. Guess I need to hit another milestone, eh?

Yes, unless it is a dire emergency! I have no problem with emergency massages!

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Here, here Inner Surfer Girl!!! Im with ya!

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