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First let me start off by saying I'm am a pretty happy and content girl these days. I'm thrilled with my progress thus far. I wouldn't change not even one thing! Not the good, the bad or the ugly (barium swallow test still ranks pretty ugly, I know simple yet traumatizing all the same) but I've noticed there are a few things that just really drive me crazy. Like, my Aunt who has also had WLS (gastric bypass almost 10 yrs ago). She has gained most all of her weight back. She insist that I send her update pictures via FB messenger and raves about how happy she is for me but then turns around and sends me a picture of a fruit pizza she made with the caption "yummy I bet you wish you had some". What the crap is that?! Is it suppose to be funny? Being as I'm a southern Christian woman and she's my aunt I don't elaborate on where she could fit that pie in her nether regions. I just say oh looks good. Puke. Also my lovely family (kids and husband) always make little remarks like "she's not going to be able to eat more that 5 bites" when ever I talk about cooking something or they make bets on how much I'm going to actually eat. Now, when it comes to them I know they aren't doing it in a mean spirited way they are just a bunch of smart a**'s which unfortunately I can't get too mad over because they got it from me. In fact the other night I had a small piece of tiramisu cake left and I heard them whispering about how they would end up with it because " mom won't be able to eat it all" so after a few bites they were right I couldn't so before they could say anything about wanting it I tossed it on the floor for the dog ;) (see where the a** part comes in?) anyway those things are a few of my pet peeves I've acquired over the last 9 months. Anyone else care to elaborate on some of your own?

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Oh and might I add people who make post about how "absurd it is to have WLS" on a WLS support website, add that one to my list ;)

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So far, there's not a lot about weight loss that ticks me off.

But I'll put my thinking cap on.

;)

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Love this topic!

My pet peeve is my family wanting to go to restaurants that I have no use for anymore. I got a promotion a few months back and my husband wanted to Celebrate by going to Cheesecake Factory. That really wasn't a celebration for me, I would rather have a new outfit. And every dish at that place is huge, there was nothing I could order.

The other thing is choosing between eating and drinking. Sometimes when we go out, I want something tasty to drink like a flavored ice tea. But if I get that, I can't eat and vice versa. For me it's not just about following the rules, I literally get sick if I eat and drink at the same time. (probably for the best)

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My mom has invited me over for dinner, then ordered pizza. Wtf. It's as if she's trying to rub it in my face. I also get frustrated when my bf wants to go out to eat, which is totally fine, but wants to go to places that have nothing I can eat. Or decides we shouldn't cook, he wants takeout. Come on. Get take out or go to grease ball restaurants with your friends. I think it's a little insensitive to do that in front of me, especially because I'm only 2 months out. It's going to be tough forever, but eventually we need to get used to being around food we can't eat or social events that aren't ideal for us. But I think it's reasonable to expect the first few months my family and close friends try to think about me when making plans. I feel selfish saying this, but this year is about me and I need to do everything I can to get the results I want. Sometimes it would be nice for a little more support

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First off, congrats @@Elode on your member spotlight in the newsletter! Your story is great.

My biggest peeve is when someone asks me how much more weight are you going to lose? You never asked me how much more I was going to gain when I was heavier. Quit telling me how much I should or shouldn't lose! You aren't my surgeon, nutritionist, or doctor.....so stop asking me! Okay, rant over! :)

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NO, MISTER OR MISS SERVER, I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DRINK WITH MY MEAL. YES, I'M SURE. NO, NOT EVEN Water.< /p>

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@@*Lexie* Oh me too! My girls wanted (insisted) on going to the golden coral last week. I haven't been to a buffet in almost a year. What a complete waste of money! I knew it was a bad idea. I had a couple bites of meatloaf, a spoon of corn and a chocolate dipped strawberry, I was watching the little 80 yr old couple sitting across from us and was amazed at how much they could eat. I'm like toddler sized portions :) I never touch the Water either. They may as well not even bring it.

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@@scarletwitch19 When I do go out to a Restaurant I usually order a appetizer, or nothing at all and just pick of the families plates. You do get use to it and you will be astonished when you look around at how much people actually eat. I was one of those people for far to long!

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@@wantingabetterlife Ha! Thank you! Nobody has asked me that yet but my oldest daughter came to visit and said I was like someone on crack....WTH! She says oh because you lost so much weight so fast. Like I said before my ex told me I "looked sick" at that time I was still 200+ lbs. Come on people! I'm no where near sickly! I'm still considered overweight technically. I think he only said it because I had moved on but still! Everybody has such strong opinions on how I look, weird because I don't give a rats a** about how they look!

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NO, MISTER OR MISS SERVER, I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DRINK WITH MY MEAL. YES, I'M SURE. NO, NOT EVEN Water.< /p>

LOL, I have finally given up that battle! I just order water so they will LEAVE ME ALONE!

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@@Babbs I just say nope I can't drink it...that gives them something to ponder.

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@@wantingabetterlife my brother says legally they have to give you Water, I don't know if that's true or not.

I don't know but I just get it so they will stop asking me if I'm sure I don't want a drink!

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My best friend not being able to handle my losing weight and distancing herself. I don't think the friendship will survive it and I realize I am okay with that????. I choose to get healthy and have no regrets.

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