I feel so guilty


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Maybe I'm totally missing something, but what did you do "wrong"? You ate a hamburger without the bun, a small piece of banana cake, and three ribs. I would think that those were perfectly acceptable holiday cookout choices.

In my mind, being in "maintenance" means to maintain my current healthy weight by eating in my new normal way. I do NOT want to get wrapped up in the dieting mentality. Eat Protein first. Stay super hydrated with Water. Stay away from simple carbs. Eat an occasional dessert without guilt. Normal eating, not strict dieting.

Guilt is a bad thing. Regret is okay. Guilt is a shame based emotion and if you engage in that guilt/shame/blame cycle you may end up doing the same things to either punish or reward yourself as you did pre-op....mostly by eating bad comfort foods. That's how guilt affects me, anyway.

You didn't eat a hotdog (which is a horrible choice!), or skip the burger and go straight to the cheesecake. You didn't suck back a giant soda (which is as bad or worse than a hotdog). I think you did okay.

Thank you. I didn't end up eating the cheesecake. Lol. Got mad at my husband because he didn't eat it right away and the temptation was there. I am a baker and I love to bake it's a stress reliever for me. I love to be in the kitchen. It's somethjng I and my extended family and coworkers enjoy too. Lol. I will get this most things I can pass up and I do and will continue to. You guys are all right. I just needed to hear from some of the vets. I am new at this maintenance thing and it's going to take me a while to get it.

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I'm not unsympathetic. I'm new at maintenance, too -- I reached goal about 7 weeks ago and have dipped down 4-5 more pounds since then. I'm now struggling to allow myself to eat more (1600 - 1700 calories daily) so as not to lose more weight.

It is an odd head trip -- this trying to stay in a bounce range and not to lose more weight. We don't have a lot of experience at doing this, eh? ;)

But I'm sure we will figure all this out. Like we figured out how to work our sleeves to lose the weight. :)

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I'm not unsympathetic. I'm new at maintenance, too -- I reached goal about 7 weeks ago and have dipped down 4-5 more pounds since then. I'm now struggling to allow myself to eat more (1600 - 1700 calories daily) so as not to lose more weight.

It is an odd head trip -- this trying to stay in a bounce range and not to lose more weight. We don't have a lot of experience at doing this, eh? ;)

But I'm sure we will figure all this out. Like we figured out how to work our sleeves to lose the weight. :)

I think we had our surgery around the same time. It is a new learning experience. I will get it and I will quit beating myself up. I have maintained now for 2 weeks, but I am well below my goal weight. I will not be buying smaller clothes. I'm have too many cute clothes to be getting any smaller. Lol. Like I EVER thought that would be a problem. It's hard getting off my very regimented schedule of eating. But I am slowly but surely learning.

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Just 1 year out. Would love to hear how all of you are doing now. I can tell we would be friends you all are so cool.


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Love this thread. At almost 2 years I am struggling with maintenance My range a 120 - 125 lbs but I catch myself thinking 118 would be OK. After PS when I increased my food I picked up some bad habits - less clear food less Water and such. Now cleared to exercise and get back on track. Scared to death of regain

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There are some of us further out. It is still work I think. For me! I encourage all of us to think of why we are here !!!
Ok. More Water and exercise for me today. All I can do is keep trying everyday to make good choices to support my lifestyle. Trying to put together a week of good choices....
all I know is to keep trying. I will not go back to 272 lbs... ever ... I will keep trying... sigh

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